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From the books  ...  Alcoholics Anonymous (Big Book) and Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions (12 & 12)


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1.
... sex.    BB p.68,  How It Works   Go to page 68 in the Big Book
Now about sex.

2.
... sex and marital problems, and sometimes they ...    12&12 p.117,  Step Twelve
But just like all other societies, we do have sex and marital problems, and sometimes they are distressingly acute.


3.
... sex and more sex; who bewail the ...    BB p.69,  How It Works   Go to page 69 in the Big Book
Then we have the voices who cry for sex and more sex; who bewail the institution of marriage; who think that most of the troubles of the race are traceable to sex causes.

4.
... sex and power, to become angry when ...    12&12 p.49,  Step Four
Unreasonable fear that our instincts will not be satisfied drives us to covet the possessions of others, to lust for sex and power, to become angry when our instinctive demands are threatened, to be envious when the ambitions of others seem to be realized while ours are not.


5.
... sex as others are loose.    BB p.70,  How It Works   Go to page 70 in the Big Book
We realize that some people are as fanatical about sex as others are loose.


6.
... sex as we would any other problem.    BB p.69,  How It Works   Go to page 69 in the Big Book
In other words, we treat sex as we would any other problem.


7.
... sex causes.    BB p.69,  How It Works   Go to page 69 in the Big Book
Then we have the voices who cry for sex and more sex; who bewail the institution of marriage; who think that most of the troubles of the race are traceable to sex causes.


8.
... sex conduct.    BB p.69,  How It Works   Go to page 69 in the Big Book
We do not want to be the arbiter of anyone's sex conduct.

9.
... sex conduct is selfish, we may excite ...    12&12 p.80,  Step Eight
If our sex conduct is selfish, we may excite jealousy, misery, and a strong desire to retaliate in kind.

10.
... sex desire ahead of everything else.    12&12 p.43,  Step Four
Suppose a person places sex desire ahead of everything else.

11.
... sex excursions are apt to be all ...    12&12 p.67,  Step Six
And even while staying within conventional bounds, many people have to admit that their imaginary sex excursions are apt to be all dressed up as dreams of romance.

12.
... sex, for material and emotional security, and ...    12&12 p.42,  Step Four
Our desires for sex, for material and emotional security, and for an important place in society often tyrannize us.


13.
... sex is a lust of our lower ...    BB p.68,  How It Works   Go to page 68 in the Big Book
One set of voices cry that sex is a lust of our lower nature, a base necessity of procreation.


14.
... sex is very troublesome, we throw ourselves ...    BB p.70,  How It Works   Go to page 70 in the Big Book
If sex is very troublesome, we throw ourselves the harder into helping others.


15.
... sex life.    BB p.69,  How It Works   Go to page 69 in the Big Book
In this way we tried to shape a sane and sound ideal for our future sex life.


16.
... sex powers were God-given and therefore good, ...    BB p.69,  How It Works   Go to page 69 in the Big Book
We remembered always that our sex powers were God-given and therefore good, neither to be used lightly or selfishly nor to be despised and loathed.


17.
... sex problems.    BB p.69,  How It Works   Go to page 69 in the Big Book
We all have sex problems.

18.
... sex relation damage other people and me?    12&12 p.50,  Step Four
When, and how, and in just what instances did my selfish pursuit of the sex relation damage other people and me?

19.
... sex relation, for material and emotional security, ...    12&12 p.42,  Step Four
So these desires -- for the sex relation, for material and emotional security, and for companionship -- are perfectly necessary and right, and surely God-given.


20.
... sex relations.    BB p.134,  The Family Afterward   Go to page 134 in the Big Book
A word about sex relations.


21.
... sex relations in the home.    BB p.81,  Into Action   Go to page 81 in the Big Book
But drinking does complicate sex relations in the home.


22.
... sex relations; security (fear).    BB p.65,  How It Works   Go to page 65 in the Big Book
My wife -- misunderstands and nags; likes Brown; wants the house put in her name -- pride; personal sex relations; security (fear).


23.
... sex relations; self esteem (fear).    BB p.65,  How It Works   Go to page 65 in the Big Book
Mr. Brown -- his attention to my wife -- sex relations; self esteem (fear).


24.
... sex relations; self esteem (fear).    BB p.65,  How It Works   Go to page 65 in the Big Book
Mr. Brown -- told my wife of my mistress -- sex relations; self esteem (fear).


25.
... sex relations, which had been interfered with?    BB p.65,  How It Works   Go to page 65 in the Big Book
Was it our self-esteem, our security, our ambitions, our personal, or sex relations, which had been interfered with?

26.
... sex runs riot, there is a similar ...    12&12 p.44,  Step Four
If sex runs riot, there is a similar uproar.

27.
... sex, security, and society.    12&12 p.50,  Step Four
Using his best judgment of what has been right and what has been wrong, he might make a rough survey of his conduct with respect to his primary instincts for sex, security, and society.

28.
... sex, security, and society becomes the sole ...    12&12 p.49,  Step Four
When the satisfaction of our instincts for sex, security, and society becomes the sole object of our lives, then pride steps in to justify our excesses.


29.
... sex situation.    BB p.69,  How It Works   Go to page 69 in the Big Book
God alone can judge our sex situation.

30.
... sex situations have caused me anxiety, bitterness, ...    12&12 p.52,  Step Four
Questioning directed to this end might run like this: Looking at both past and present, what sex situations have caused me anxiety, bitterness, frustration, or depression?


31.
... sex: We earnestly pray for the right ...    BB p.70,  How It Works   Go to page 70 in the Big Book
To sum up about sex: We earnestly pray for the right ideal, for guidance in each questionable situation, for sanity, and for the strength to do the right thing.


32.
... sex) were hurt or threatened.    BB p.65,  How It Works   Go to page 64 in the Big Book
In most cases it was found that our self-esteem, our pocketbooks, our ambitions, our personal relationships (including sex) were hurt or threatened.


33.
... sex; who bewail the institution of marriage; ...    BB p.69,  How It Works   Go to page 69 in the Big Book
Then we have the voices who cry for sex and more sex; who bewail the institution of marriage; who think that most of the troubles of the race are traceable to sex causes.

34.
... sex with whom the fullest possible union ...    12&12 p.117,  Step Twelve
Nearly every sound human being experiences, at some time in life, a compelling desire to find a mate of the opposite sex with whom the fullest possible union can be made -- spiritual, mental, emotional, and physical.


Passages from the Big Book Alcoholics Anonymous and the Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions are reprinted with permission of A.A. World Services, Inc.  The A.A. Preamble, copyright © The A.A. Grapevine, Inc., is reprinted with permission.  Permission to reprint does not in any way imply affiliation with or endorsement by either Alcoholics Anonymous or The A.A. Grapevine, Inc.

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