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1.
View THE DOCTOR'S OPINION   ... people.   BB The Doctor's Opinion, p.xxx  
They are often able, intelligent, friendly people.


2.
View THERE IS A SOLUTION chapter   ... people.   BB There Is A Solution, p.22  
Opinions vary considerably as to why the alcoholic reacts differently from normal people.


3.
View THERE IS A SOLUTION chapter   ... people.   BB There Is A Solution, p.24  
If these thoughts occur, they are hazy and readily supplanted with the old threadbare idea that this time we shall handle ourselves like other people.


4.
View MORE ABOUT ALCOHOLISM chapter   ... people.   BB More About Alcoholism, p.30  
Therefore, it is not surprising that our drinking careers have been characterized by countless vain attempts to prove we could drink like other people.


5.
View MORE ABOUT ALCOHOLISM chapter   ... people!   BB More About Alcoholism, p.31  
Heaven knows, we have tried hard enough and long enough to drink like other people!


6.
View HOW IT WORKS chapter   ... people.   BB How It Works, p.70  
We have begun to learn tolerance, patience and good will toward all men, even our enemies, for we look on them as sick people.


7.
View INTO ACTION chapter   ... people.   BB Into Action, p.81  
We doubt if, in this respect, alcoholics are fundamentally much worse than other people.


8.
View WORKING WITH OTHERS chapter   ... people.   BB Working With Others, p.94  
He may rebel at the thought of a drastic housecleaning which requires discussion with other people.


9.
View WORKING WITH OTHERS chapter   ... people.   BB Working With Others, pp.99-100  
Remind the prospect that his recovery is not dependent upon people.


10.
View TO WIVES chapter   ... people.   BB To Wives, p.109  
He is worried at times, and is becoming aware that he cannot drink like other people.


11.
View THE FAMILY AFTERWARD chapter   ... people.   BB The Family Afterward, p.125  
We alcoholics are sensitive people.


12.
View TO EMPLOYERS chapter   ... people.   BB To Employers, p.146  
As a class, alcoholics are energetic people.


13.
View A VISION FOR YOU chapter   ... people?"   BB A Vision For You, p.152  
"Where am I to find these people?"


14.
View STEP FOUR essay   ... people?   12&12 Step Four, p.51  
Did I take it out on other people?


15.
View STEP FIVE essay   ... people.   12&12 Step Five, p.56  
They always discovered that relief never came by confessing the sins of other people.


16.
View STEP FIVE essay   ... people.   12&12 Step Five, p.56  
It has been validated in every century, and it characterizes the lives of all spiritually centered and truly religious people.


17.
View STEP EIGHT essay   ... people.   12&12 Step Eight, p.79  
Though in some cases we cannot make restitution at all, and in some cases action ought to be deferred, we should nevertheless make an accurate and really exhaustive survey of our past life as it has affected other people.


18.
View STEP EIGHT essay   ... people.   12&12 Step Eight, p.80  
We might next ask ourselves what we mean when we say that we have "harmed" other people.


19.
View STEP EIGHT essay   ... people.   12&12 Step Eight, p.80  
To define the word "harm" in a practical way, we might call it the result of instincts in collision, which cause physical, mental, emotional, or spiritual damage to people.


20.
View STEP NINE essay   ... people.   12&12 Step Nine, p.86  
Or -- quite as important -- other people.


21.
View STEP ELEVEN essay   ... people.   12&12 Step Eleven, p.104  
We form ideas as to what we think God's will is for other people.


22.
View STEP TWELVE essay   ... people.   12&12 Step Twelve, p.108  
We followed this up in Step Nine by making direct amends to those concerned, except when it would injure them or other people.


23.
View STEP TWELVE essay   ... people.   12&12 Step Twelve, p.115  
Our demand for emotional security, for our own way, had constantly thrown us into unworkable relations with other people.


24.
View STEP TWELVE essay   ... people.   12&12 Step Twelve, p.120  
We threw money about in every direction with the purpose of pleasing ourselves and impressing other people.


25.
View TRADITION THREE essay   ... people.   12&12 Tradition Three, p.142  
Tirelessly he laid A.A.'s message before scores of people.


26.
View TRADITION SIX essay   ... people.   12&12 Tradition Six, p.155  
We seriously thought of rewriting the laws of the land, and having it declared that alcoholics are sick people.


27.
View TRADITION SEVEN essay   ... people.   12&12 Tradition Seven, p.161  
Alcoholics are certainly all-or-nothing people.


28.
View TRADITION TEN essay   ... people.   12&12 Tradition Ten, p.177  
Let us reemphasize that this reluctance to fight one another or anybody else is not counted as some special virtue which makes us feel superior to other people.


29.
View INTO ACTION chapter   ... people about us.   BB Into Action, p.77  
Our real purpose is to fit ourselves to be of maximum service to God and the people about us.


30.
View STEP TWELVE essay   ... people acting that way toward us.   12&12 Step Twelve, p.115  
We couldn't imagine people acting that way toward us.


31.
View STEP FOUR essay   ... people against us.   12&12 Step Four, p.47  
We had to see that every time we played the big shot, we turned people against us.


32.
View WORKING WITH OTHERS chapter   ... people ahead of dependence on God.   BB Working With Others, p.98  
Some of us have taken very hard knocks to learn this truth: Job or no job -- wife or no wife -- we simply do not stop drinking so long as we place dependence upon other people ahead of dependence on God.


33.
View WORKING WITH OTHERS chapter   ... people ahead of his own.   BB Working With Others, p.94  
Suggest how important it is that he place the welfare of other people ahead of his own.


34.
View STEP FOUR essay   ... people all along, except for our drinking, ...   12&12 Step Four, p.45  
If we were pretty nice people all along, except for our drinking, what need is there for a moral inventory now that we are sober?


35.
View THE FAMILY AFTERWARD chapter   ... people, and a tendency to take advantage ...   BB The Family Afterward, p.125  
This is a condition which, in ordinary life, would produce untold grief; there might be scandalous gossip, laughter at the expense of other people, and a tendency to take advantage of intimate information.


36.
View STEP TEN essay   ... people and circumstances.   12&12 Step Ten, p.92  
When temporary good fortune came our way, we indulged ourselves in fantasies of still greater victories over people and circumstances.


37.
View STEP TWELVE essay   ... people, and constructive projects.   12&12 Step Twelve, p.120  
In partnership with others -- women and men -- they can devote themselves to any number of ideas, people, and constructive projects.


38.
View STEP FOUR essay   ... people and me?   12&12 Step Four, p.50  
When, and how, and in just what instances did my selfish pursuit of the sex relation damage other people and me?


39.
View INTO ACTION chapter   ... people and of economic insecurity will leave ...   BB Into Action, p.84  
Fear of people and of economic insecurity will leave us.


40.
View THE DOCTOR'S OPINION   ... people, and sets them apart as a ...   BB The Doctor's Opinion, p.xxx  
This phenomenon, as we have suggested, may be the manifestation of an allergy which differentiates these people, and sets them apart as a distinct entity.


41.
View STEP TWELVE essay   ... people and situations in the world in ...   12&12 Step Twelve, p.108  
In Step Eight, we continued our housecleaning, for we saw that we were not only in conflict with ourselves, but also with people and situations in the world in which we lived.


42.
View WE AGNOSTICS chapter   ... people, and sometimes used their shortcomings as ...   BB We Agnostics, p.50  
Instead, we looked at the human defects of these people, and sometimes used their shortcomings as a basis of wholesale condemnation.


43.
View TO EMPLOYERS chapter   ... people and the alcoholic.   BB To Employers, p.149  
As to them, his policy is undoubtedly sound, but he did not distinguish between such people and the alcoholic.


44.
View STEP SIX essay   ... people annoy us, for it brings a ...   12&12 Step Six, p.67  
In a perverse way we can actually take satisfaction from the fact that many people annoy us, for it brings a comfortable feeling of superiority.


45.
View INTO ACTION chapter   ... people approached in this way will be ...   BB Into Action, p.75  
Most people approached in this way will be glad to help; they will be honored by our confidence.


46.
View WE AGNOSTICS chapter   ... people are able to say that the ...   BB We Agnostics, p.51  
When many hundreds of people are able to say that the consciousness of the Presence of God is today the most important fact of their lives, they present a powerful reason why one should have faith.


47.
View HOW IT WORKS chapter   ... people are as fanatical about sex as ...   BB How It Works, p.70  
We realize that some people are as fanatical about sex as others are loose.


48.
View STEP TWELVE essay   ... people are fallible, and even the best ...   12&12 Step Twelve, p.115  
We had refused to learn the very hard lesson that overdependence upon people is unsuccessful because all people are fallible, and even the best of them will sometimes let us down, especially when our demands for attention become unreasonable.


49.
View STEP THREE essay   ... people are getting from self-sufficiency.   12&12 Step Three, p.37  
Should his own image in the mirror be too awful to contemplate (and it usually is), he might first take a look at the results normal people are getting from self-sufficiency.


50.
View INTO ACTION chapter   ... people are involved.   BB Into Action, p.79  
Usually, however, other people are involved.


51.
View HOW IT WORKS chapter   ... people are more to blame.   BB How It Works, p.61  
Admitting he may be somewhat at fault, he is sure that other people are more to blame.


52.
View INTO ACTION chapter   ... people are right.   BB Into Action, p.87  
Be quick to see where religious people are right.


53.
View TO WIVES chapter   ... people are thinking and you hate to ...   BB To Wives, p.114  
If your husband is a drinker, you probably worry over what other people are thinking and you hate to meet your friends.


54.
View TO EMPLOYERS chapter   ... people are trying to pull us down.   BB To Employers, p.145  
Sometimes we alcoholics have an idea that people are trying to pull us down.


55.
View STEP FIVE essay   ... people are unable to stay sober at ...   12&12 Step Five, p.56  
Some people are unable to stay sober at all; others will relapse periodically until they really clean house.


56.
View STEP ELEVEN essay   ... people as we have already thought they ...   12&12 Step Eleven, p.102  
Our immediate temptation will be to ask for specific solutions to specific problems, and for the ability to help other people as we have already thought they should be helped.


57.
View STEP EIGHT essay   ... people at all?   12&12 Step Eight, p.79  
Why do we have to think of these people at all?


58.
View STEP TWELVE essay   ... people awaken to the presence of a ...   12&12 Step Twelve, p.110  
To watch the eyes of men and women open with wonder as they move from darkness into light, to see their lives quickly fill with new purpose and meaning, to see whole families reassembled, to see the alcoholic outcast received back into his community in full citizenship, and above all to watch these people awaken to the presence of a loving God in their lives -- these things are the substance of what we receive as we carry A.A.'s message to the next alcoholic.


59.
View TRADITION SIX essay   ... people became confused.   12&12 Tradition Six, p.156  
A.A. groups had their fling at education, and when they began to publicly whoop up the merits of this or that brand, people became confused.


60.
View STEP FIVE essay   ... people began to cut us off, nearly ...   12&12 Step Five, p.57  
Even before our drinking got bad and people began to cut us off, nearly all of us suffered the feeling that we didn't quite belong.


61.
View HOW IT WORKS chapter   ... people, but at least God will show ...   BB How It Works, p.67  
We cannot be helpful to all people, but at least God will show us how to take a kindly and tolerant view of each and every one.


62.
View TO WIVES chapter   ... people, but does not see why.   BB To Wives, p.110  
He admits he cannot drink like other people, but does not see why.


63.
View FOREWORD TO THIRD EDITION   ... people, but to a wider and wider ...   BB Foreword to Third Edition, p.xxii  
Surveys of groups in the United States and Canada indicate that A.A. is reaching out, not only to more and more people, but to a wider and wider range.


64.
View STEP TWO essay   ... people call us precocious.   12&12 Step Two, p.29  
We loved to have people call us precocious.


65.
View STEP TEN essay   ... people can truthfully assert that they love ...   12&12 Step Ten, p.92  
Not many people can truthfully assert that they love everybody.


66.
View INTO ACTION chapter   ... people cannot be seen -- we send them ...   BB Into Action, p.83  
Some people cannot be seen -- we send them an honest letter.


67.
View STEP FIVE essay   ... people claim the guidance of God when ...   12&12 Step Five, p.60  
How many times have we heard well-intentioned people claim the guidance of God when it was all too plain that they were sorely mistaken.


68.
View STEP EIGHT essay   ... people concerned now overwhelmed us, especially when ...   12&12 Step Eight, p.79  
But the prospect of actually visiting or even writing the people concerned now overwhelmed us, especially when we remembered in what poor favor we stood with most of them.


69.
View BILL'S STORY chapter   ... people concerning drink.   BB Bill's Story, p.1  
I forgot the strong warnings and the prejudices of my people concerning drink.


70.
View HOW IT WORKS chapter   ... people continued to wrong us and we ...   BB How It Works, p.66  
The usual outcome was that people continued to wrong us and we stayed sore.


71.
View STEP TEN essay   ... people, could keep us on an emotional ...   12&12 Step Ten, p.90  
Anger, that occasional luxury of more balanced people, could keep us on an emotional jag indefinitely.


72.
View FOREWORD   ... people could live and work together with ...   12&12 Foreword, p.18  
But it was by no means sure that such great numbers of yet erratic people could live and work together with harmony and good effect.


73.
View TO EMPLOYERS chapter   ... people, deranged men.   BB To Employers, p.149  
Of course, this chapter refers to alcoholics, sick people, deranged men.


74.
View WORKING WITH OTHERS chapter   ... people discover they have a basis upon ...   BB Working With Others, p.99  
The most incompatible people discover they have a basis upon which they can meet.


75.
View STEP EIGHT essay   ... people do one another, anyway?   12&12 Step Eight, p.80  
What kinds of "harm" do people do one another, anyway?


76.
View TO WIVES chapter   ... people, especially alcoholics.   BB To Wives, p.119  
Still another difficulty is that you may become jealous of the attention he bestows on other people, especially alcoholics.


77.
View MORE ABOUT ALCOHOLISM chapter   ... people everywhere.   BB More About Alcoholism, pp.33-34  
We, who are familiar with the symptoms, see large numbers of potential alcoholics among young people everywhere.


78.
View TRADITION SEVEN essay   ... people familiar with endless drives for charitable ...   12&12 Tradition Seven, p.165  
To people familiar with endless drives for charitable funds, A.A. presented a strange and refreshing spectacle.


79.
View BILL'S STORY chapter   People feared for my sanity.   BB Bill's Story, p.7  
People feared for my sanity.


80.
View STEP THREE essay   ... people filled with anger and fear, society ...   12&12 Step Three, p.37  
Everywhere he sees people filled with anger and fear, society breaking up into warring fragments.


81.
View STEP FOUR essay   ... people for too much attention, protection, and ...   12&12 Step Four, p.44  
Demands made upon other people for too much attention, protection, and love can only invite domination or revulsion in the protectors themselves -- two emotions quite as unhealthy as the demands which evoked them.


82.
View TRADITION TWELVE essay   ... people from us.   12&12 Tradition Twelve, p.185  
It frequently turned people from us.


83.
View A VISION FOR YOU chapter   ... people from whom he made his livelihood?   BB A Vision For You, p.155  
Why, he argued, should he lose the remainder of his business, only to bring still more suffering to his family by foolishly admitting his plight to people from whom he made his livelihood?


84.
View STEP TWELVE essay   ... people had temporarily let us run their ...   12&12 Step Twelve, p.115  
Where people had temporarily let us run their lives as though they were still children, we had felt very happy and secure ourselves.


85.
View A VISION FOR YOU chapter   ... people had were irresistible.   BB A Vision For You, p.160  
The very practical approach to his problems, the absence of intolerance of any kind, the informality, the genuine democracy, the uncanny understanding which these people had were irresistible.


86.
View STEP TEN essay   ... people have been more victimized by resentments ...   12&12 Step Ten, p.90  
Few people have been more victimized by resentments than have we alcoholics.


87.
View STEP TWO essay   ... people have done to us!   12&12 Step Two, p.25  
How often have we heard them cry out, "Look what you people have done to us!


88.
View STEP TEN essay   ... people have ever loved personal triumphs more ...   12&12 Step Ten, p.91  
For no people have ever loved personal triumphs more than we have loved them; we drank of success as of a wine which could never fail to make us feel elated.


89.
View THERE IS A SOLUTION chapter   ... people have said to us: "I can ...   BB There Is A Solution, p.20  
How many times people have said to us: "I can take it or leave it alone.


90.
View WORKING WITH OTHERS chapter   People have said we must not go ...   BB Working With Others, p.100  
People have said we must not go where liquor is served; we must not have it in our homes; we must shun friends who drink; we must avoid moving pictures which show drinking scenes; we must not go into bars; our friends must hide their bottles if we go to their houses; we mustn't think or be reminded about alcohol at all.


91.
View STEP SIX essay   ... people have to admit that their imaginary ...   12&12 Step Six, p.67  
And even while staying within conventional bounds, many people have to admit that their imaginary sex excursions are apt to be all dressed up as dreams of romance.


92.
View STEP SEVEN essay   ... people haven't even a nodding acquaintance with ...   12&12 Step Seven, p.70  
Many people haven't even a nodding acquaintance with humility as a way of life.


93.
View A VISION FOR YOU chapter   ... people he had hurt.   BB A Vision For You, p.156  
Stepping into his car, he made the rounds of people he had hurt.


94.
View STEP EIGHT essay   ... people he has hurt, and in what ...   12&12 Step Eight, p.77  
To a degree, he has already done this when taking moral inventory, but now the time has come when he ought to redouble his efforts to see how many people he has hurt, and in what ways.


95.
View BILL'S STORY chapter   ... people I had hurt or toward whom ...   BB Bill's Story, p.13  
We made a list of people I had hurt or toward whom I felt resentment.


96.
View WE AGNOSTICS chapter   ... people I have known are wrong?"   BB We Agnostics, p.56  
But later, alone in his room, he asked himself this question: "Is it possible that all the religious people I have known are wrong?"


97.
View A VISION FOR YOU chapter   ... people I see?   BB A Vision For You, p.152  
But am I to be consigned to a life where I shall be stupid, boring and glum, like some righteous people I see?


98.
View STEP SIX essay   ... people, if they construct a list of ...   12&12 Step Six, p.68  
But even these people, if they construct a list of still milder defects, will be obliged to admit that they prefer to hang on to some of them.


99.
View A VISION FOR YOU chapter   ... people in a sinking ship.   BB A Vision For You, p.152  
Near you, alcoholics are dying helplessly like people in a sinking ship.


100.
View TRADITION NINE essay   ... people in authority; they result from his ...   12&12 Tradition Nine, p.174  
His drunkenness and dissolution are not penalties inflicted by people in authority; they result from his personal disobedience to spiritual principles.


101.
View DOCTOR BOB'S NIGHTMARE story   ... people in for the same reason.   BB Doctor Bob's Nightmare, p.177  
We could not be invited out because I would surely get tight, and my wife dared not invite people in for the same reason.


102.
View STEP SEVEN essay   ... people in the world ever made a ...   12&12 Step Seven, p.71  
But we are sure that no class of people in the world ever made a worse mess of trying to live by this formula than alcoholics.


103.
View TRADITION SIX essay   ... people in this country would think we'd ...   12&12 Tradition Six, p.158  
Half the people in this country would think we'd signed up with the drys, the other half would think we'd joined the wets.


104.
View STEP TEN essay   ... people, including ourselves, are to some extent ...   12&12 Step Ten, p.92  
Finally, we begin to see that all people, including ourselves, are to some extent emotionally ill as well as frequently wrong, and then we approach true tolerance and see what real love for our fellows actually means.


105.
View HOW IT WORKS chapter   ... people, institutions or principles with whom we ...   BB How It Works, p.64  
We listed people, institutions or principles with whom we were angry.


106.
View STEP TWELVE essay   ... people is unsuccessful because all people are ...   12&12 Step Twelve, p.115  
We had refused to learn the very hard lesson that overdependence upon people is unsuccessful because all people are fallible, and even the best of them will sometimes let us down, especially when our demands for attention become unreasonable.


107.
View FOREWORD TO FOURTH EDITION   ... people, it has also touched the lives ...   BB Foreword to Fourth Edition, p.xxiii  
As the message of recovery has reached larger numbers of people, it has also touched the lives of a vastly greater variety of suffering alcoholics.


108.
View INTO ACTION chapter   ... people know we are sorry.   BB Into Action, p.78  
Arranging the best deal we can we let these people know we are sorry.


109.
View TO WIVES chapter   ... people like him.   BB To Wives, p.109  
This world is full of people like him.


110.
View HOW IT WORKS chapter   ... people like to call it nowadays.   BB How It Works, p.61  
Our actor is self-centered -- ego-centric, as people like to call it nowadays.


111.
View MORE ABOUT ALCOHOLISM chapter   People like you are too heartbreaking.   BB More About Alcoholism, p.43  
People like you are too heartbreaking.


112.
View BILL'S STORY chapter   ... people lost money -- but some became very ...   BB Bill's Story, p.2  
Many people lost money -- but some became very rich.


113.
View BILL'S STORY chapter   ... people lost money in stocks through ignorance ...   BB Bill's Story, p.2  
I had developed a theory that most people lost money in stocks through ignorance of markets.


114.
View MORE ABOUT ALCOHOLISM chapter   ... people may be encouraged by this man's ...   BB More About Alcoholism, p.33  
Young people may be encouraged by this man's experience to think that they can stop, as he did, on their own will power.


115.
View TO WIVES chapter   ... people may face.   BB To Wives (Note), p.121  
The foregoing pages (though addressed only to wives) indicate the problems such people may face.


116.
View TRADITION TWELVE essay   ... people might break our anonymity wide open.   12&12 Tradition Twelve, pp.184-185  
Between these lines, it is easy to read our fear that large numbers of incoming people might break our anonymity wide open.


117.
View A VISION FOR YOU chapter   ... people might bring their problems.   BB A Vision For You, p.160  
Aside from fellowship and sociability, the prime object was to provide a time and place where new people might bring their problems.


118.
View TRADITION THREE essay   ... people might say than the trouble this ...   12&12 Tradition Three, p.142  
We are much more afraid of what people might say than the trouble this strange alcoholic might bring.


119.
View TRADITION FOUR essay   ... people's money.   12&12 Tradition Four, p.147  
This would all take a lot of money -- other people's money.


120.
View A VISION FOR YOU chapter   ... people, much shocked by their son's refusal ...   BB A Vision For You, p.158  
They were deeply religious people, much shocked by their son's refusal to have anything to do with the church.


121.
View THE DOCTOR'S OPINION   ... people must have depth and weight.   BB The Doctor's Opinion, p.xxviii  
The message which can interest and hold these alcoholic people must have depth and weight.


122.
View TRADITION SIX essay   People needed to be told what alcoholism ...   12&12 Tradition Six, p.155  
People needed to be told what alcoholism was, so we'd educate the public, even rewrite school and medical textbooks.


123.
View A VISION FOR YOU chapter   ... people no longer signify much to them.   BB A Vision For You, p.161  
Being wrecked in the same vessel, being restored and united under one God, with hearts and minds attuned to the welfare of others, the things which matter so much to some people no longer signify much to them.


124.
View FOREWORD   ... people, nonalcoholics, report that as a result ...   12&12 Foreword, p.15  
Many people, nonalcoholics, report that as a result of the practice of A.A.'s Twelve Steps, they have been able to meet other difficulties of life.


125.
View DOCTOR BOB'S NIGHTMARE story   ... people notified my wife, who sent my ...   BB Doctor Bob's Nightmare, p.179  
These good people notified my wife, who sent my newly made friend over to get me.


126.
View STEP TEN essay   ... people, of course, in all times and ...   12&12 Step Ten, p.88  
More experienced people, of course, in all times and places have practiced unsparing self-survey and criticism.


127.
View STEP SIX essay   ... people, of course, may conclude that they ...   12&12 Step Six, p.67  
Some people, of course, may conclude that they are indeed ready to have all such defects taken from them.


128.
View WE AGNOSTICS chapter   People of faith have a logical idea ...   BB We Agnostics, p.49  
People of faith have a logical idea of what life is all about.


129.
View STEP FIVE essay   ... people of very high spiritual development almost ...   12&12 Step Five, p.60  
It is worth noting that people of very high spiritual development almost always insist on checking with friends or spiritual advisers the guidance they feel they have received from God.


130.
View TO EMPLOYERS chapter   ... people often may impose on you.   BB To Employers, p.141  
Of course that isn't so, and such people often may impose on you.


131.
View STEP FOUR essay   ... people often throw to the winds every ...   12&12 Step Four, p.44  
These people often throw to the winds every chance for legitimate security and a happy family life.


132.
View TRADITION SEVEN essay   ... people: one devoted secretary and myself.   12&12 Tradition Seven, p.162  
"Our office staff," Bill says, "consisted of two people: one devoted secretary and myself.


133.
View STEP TEN essay   ... people or new events throw us off ...   12&12 Step Ten, p.91  
The quick inventory is aimed at our daily ups and downs, especially those where people or new events throw us off balance and tempt us to make mistakes.


134.
View MORE ABOUT ALCOHOLISM chapter   ... people, or presently may be, has to ...   BB More About Alcoholism, p.30  
The delusion that we are like other people, or presently may be, has to be smashed.


135.
View TRADITION SEVEN essay   ... people ought to give money to alcoholics ...   12&12 Tradition Seven, p.160  
When you add to this the habitual supposition that people ought to give money to alcoholics trying to stay sober, it can be understood why we thought we deserved a pile of folding money.


136.
View STEP FOUR essay   ... people -- people who really need a moral ...   12&12 Step Four, p.45  
Our present anxieties and troubles, we cry, are caused by the behavior of other people -- people who really need a moral inventory.


137.
View WE AGNOSTICS chapter   ... people presented us with spiritual approaches, how ...   BB We Agnostics, p.47  
When people presented us with spiritual approaches, how frequently did we all say, "I wish I had what that man has.


138.
View STEP TWELVE essay   ... people protect and take care of us ...   12&12 Step Twelve, p.115  
When we had taken the opposite tack and had insisted, like infants ourselves, that people protect and take care of us or that the world owed us a living, then the result had been equally unfortunate.


139.
View BILL'S STORY chapter   ... people really are, for that means blind ...   BB Bill's Story, p.10  
Few people really are, for that means blind faith in the strange proposition that this universe originated in a cipher and aimlessly rushes nowhere.


140.
View HOW IT WORKS chapter   ... people really dominated us.   BB How It Works, p.66  
We began to see that the world and its people really dominated us.


141.
View WORKING WITH OTHERS chapter   ... people recover, to see them help others, ...   BB Working With Others, p.89  
To watch people recover, to see them help others, to watch loneliness vanish, to see a fellowship grow up about you, to have a host of friends -- this is an experience you must not miss.


142.
View WE AGNOSTICS chapter   ... people said God had reserved this privilege ...   BB We Agnostics, p.51  
Had not people said God had reserved this privilege to the birds?


143.
View STEP TWELVE essay   ... people said we were of the "inferior" ...   12&12 Step Twelve, p.123  
Then people said we were of the "inferior" type.


144.
View TRADITION THREE essay   ... people say about us?   12&12 Tradition Three, p.140  
Besides, if we took in those odd ones, what would decent people say about us?


145.
View TRADITION NINE essay   ... people say, "What do they mean, no ...   12&12 Tradition Nine, p.172  
Scanning this puzzler, people say, "What do they mean, no organization?"


146.
View WE AGNOSTICS chapter   ... people, sentiment, things, money, and ourselves?   BB We Agnostics, p.54  
Had we not variously worshipped people, sentiment, things, money, and ourselves?


147.
View THERE IS A SOLUTION chapter   ... people's shortcomings and viewpoints and a respect ...   BB There Is A Solution, p.19  
Most of us sense that real tolerance of other people's shortcomings and viewpoints and a respect for their opinions are attitudes which make us more useful to others.


148.
View TRADITION SEVEN essay   ... people still alive.   12&12 Tradition Seven, p.164  
They pointed out that the Foundation board already knew of a total of half a million dollars set aside for A.A. in the wills of people still alive.


149.
View STEP ONE essay   ... people such as these take this Step?   12&12 Step One, p.23  
Since Step One requires an admission that our lives have become unmanageable, how could people such as these take this Step?


150.
View STEP FOUR essay   ... people suffer and often revolt.   12&12 Step Four, p.44  
When an individual's desire for prestige becomes uncontrollable, whether in the sewing circle or at the international conference table, other people suffer and often revolt.


151.
View TRADITION TEN essay   ... people suspected of mixed motives.   12&12 Tradition Ten, pp.177-178  
Bitter attacks have been directed against people suspected of mixed motives.


152.
View HOW IT WORKS chapter   ... people tell us so.   BB How It Works, p.70  
Some people tell us so.


153.
View STEP TWO essay   ... people than any erected by the unconvinced ...   12&12 Step Two, p.28  
The roadblocks of indifference, fancied self-sufficiency, prejudice, and defiance often prove more solid and formidable for these people than any erected by the unconvinced agnostic or even the militant atheist.


154.
View TO WIVES chapter   ... people that he is a sick person, ...   BB To Wives, p.115  
When you have carefully explained to such people that he is a sick person, you will have created a new atmosphere.


155.
View HOW IT WORKS chapter   ... people that way.   BB How It Works, p.67  
We wouldn't treat sick people that way.


156.
View INTO ACTION chapter   ... people, the alcoholic leads a double life.   BB Into Action, p.73  
More than most people, the alcoholic leads a double life.


157.
View TRADITION TWELVE essay   ... people their high confidence in our future.   12&12 Tradition Twelve, p.184  
It is A.A.'s proved willingness to make these sacrifices that gives people their high confidence in our future.


158.
View TRADITION NINE essay   ... people there would have to have some ...   12&12 Tradition Nine, p.173  
Surely, the people there would have to have some authority.


159.
View STEP FOUR essay   ... people, they will sooner or later fail ...   12&12 Step Four, p.53  
If we lean too heavily on people, they will sooner or later fail us, for they are human, too, and cannot possibly meet our incessant demands.


160.
View THE FAMILY AFTERWARD chapter   ... people, though he may differ with them ...   BB The Family Afterward, p.131  
Being possessed of a spiritual experience, the alcoholic will find he has much in common with these people, though he may differ with them on many matters.


161.
View STEP TWELVE essay   ... people to cover up our deep-lying inferiorities.   12&12 Step Twelve, p.123  
We simply had to be number one people to cover up our deep-lying inferiorities.


162.
View TO WIVES chapter   ... people to maintain his own sobriety.   BB To Wives, p.119  
The fact is that he should work with other people to maintain his own sobriety.


163.
View THERE IS A SOLUTION chapter   ... people to please, no lectures to be ...   BB There Is A Solution, p.18  
That the man who is making the approach has had the same difficulty, that he obviously knows what he is talking about, that his whole deportment shouts at the new prospect that he is a man with a real answer, that he has no attitude of Holier Than Thou, nothing whatever except the sincere desire to be helpful; that there are no fees to pay, no axes to grind, no people to please, no lectures to be endured -- these are the conditions we have found most effective.


164.
View STEP NINE essay   ... people to such quiet sincerity will often ...   12&12 Step Nine, p.84  
The generous response of most people to such quiet sincerity will often astonish us.


165.
View STEP NINE essay   ... people, to tell them what A.A. is, ...   12&12 Step Nine, p.84  
Then we are ready to go to these people, to tell them what A.A. is, and what we are trying to do.


166.
View STEP EIGHT essay   ... people to whom we have given offense.   12&12 Step Eight, p.81  
Having carefully surveyed this whole area of human relations, and having decided exactly what personality traits in us injured and disturbed others, we can now commence to ransack memory for the people to whom we have given offense.


167.
View A VISION FOR YOU chapter   ... people tolerated us, the more we withdrew ...   BB A Vision For You, p.151  
The less people tolerated us, the more we withdrew from society, from life itself.


168.
View TRADITION EIGHT essay   ... people, too, were professionals.   12&12 Tradition Eight, p.167  
In all these instances, and more, it was claimed that A.A. knowledge and experience were being sold for money, hence these people, too, were professionals.


169.
View HOW IT WORKS chapter   ... people try to live by self-propulsion.   BB How It Works, p.60  
Most people try to live by self-propulsion.


170.
View STEP TEN essay   ... people turned away from us, bored or ...   12&12 Step Ten, p.92  
Of course, people turned away from us, bored or hurt.


171.
View STEP THREE essay   ... people understand, meets our simplest daily needs, ...   12&12 Step Three, p.36  
Silently and surely, electricity, that strange energy so few people understand, meets our simplest daily needs, and our most desperate ones, too.


172.
View WE AGNOSTICS chapter   ... people -- was not a basic solution of ...   BB We Agnostics, p.52  
We were having trouble with personal relationships, we couldn't control our emotional natures, we were a prey to misery and depression, we couldn't make a living, we had a feeling of uselessness, we were full of fear, we were unhappy, we couldn't seem to be of real help to other people -- was not a basic solution of these bedevilments more important than whether we should see newsreels of lunar flight?


173.
View STEP TEN essay   ... people, we can promptly admit it -- to ...   12&12 Step Ten, p.93  
Whenever we fail any of these people, we can promptly admit it -- to ourselves always, and to them also, when the admission would be helpful.


174.
View THE FAMILY AFTERWARD chapter   ... people, we cannot make up others' minds ...   BB The Family Afterward, p.132  
As non-denominational people, we cannot make up others' minds for them.


175.
View STEP TWO essay   ... people, we could feel superior to all ...   12&12 Step Two, p.30  
In belaboring the sins of some religious people, we could feel superior to all of them.


176.
View STEP EIGHT essay   ... people we had harmed.   12&12 Step Eight, p.79  
These were some of the ways in which fear conspired with pride to hinder our making a list of all the people we had harmed.


177.
View STEP TWELVE essay   ... people we had harmed and became willing ...   12&12 Step Twelve, p.108  
We had to begin to make our peace, and so we listed the people we had harmed and became willing to set things right.


178.
View STEP TWELVE essay   ... people we had loved most to push ...   12&12 Step Twelve, p.115  
This often caused the people we had loved most to push us aside or perhaps desert us entirely.


179.
View STEP TWELVE essay   ... people, we have found that we can ...   12&12 Step Twelve, p.114  
Like most people, we have found that we can take our big lumps as they come.


180.
View STEP NINE essay   ... people we have harmed, have reflected carefully ...   12&12 Step Nine, p.83  
After we have made the list of people we have harmed, have reflected carefully upon each instance, and have tried to possess ourselves of the right attitude in which to proceed, we will see that the making of direct amends divides those we should approach into several classes.


181.
View STEP EIGHT essay   ... people we have harmed, most of us ...   12&12 Step Eight, p.78  
When listing the people we have harmed, most of us hit another solid obstacle.


182.
View HOW IT WORKS chapter   ... people we have hurt by our conduct, ...   BB How It Works, p.70  
We have listed the people we have hurt by our conduct, and are willing to straighten out the past if we can.


183.
View STEP FOUR essay   ... people we know, or we depend upon ...   12&12 Step Four, p.53  
Either we insist upon dominating the people we know, or we depend upon them far too much.


184.
View INTO ACTION chapter   ... people we need not, and probably should ...   BB Into Action, p.76  
To some people we need not, and probably should not emphasize the spiritual feature on our first approach.


185.
View INTO ACTION chapter   ... people we secure their consent.   BB Into Action, p.80  
Before taking drastic action which might implicate other people we secure their consent.


186.
View INTO ACTION chapter   ... people we stand on our feet; we ...   BB Into Action, p.83  
As God's people we stand on our feet; we don't crawl before anyone.


187.
View TRADITION THREE essay   ... people we termed 'pure alcoholics.'   12&12 Tradition Three, p.140  
"We were resolved to admit nobody to A.A. but that hypothetical class of people we termed 'pure alcoholics.'


188.
View STEP TWELVE essay   ... people, we would have to put our ...   12&12 Step Twelve, p.116  
It became clear that if we ever were to feel emotionally secure among grown-up people, we would have to put our lives on a give-and-take basis; we would have to develop the sense of being in partnership or brotherhood with all those around us.


189.
View FOREWORD TO SECOND EDITION   ... people went to the bookstores to get ...   BB Foreword to Second Edition, p.xviii  
News of this got on the world wires; inquiries poured in again and many people went to the bookstores to get the book "Alcoholics Anonymous."


190.
View STEP TWELVE essay   ... people were attracted to us as never ...   12&12 Step Twelve, p.116  
When we persistently did this we gradually found that people were attracted to us as never before.


191.
View STEP FOUR essay   ... people were concerned, we had to drop ...   12&12 Step Four, p.47  
Where other people were concerned, we had to drop the word "blame" from our speech and thought.


192.
View STEP FOUR essay   ... people were hurt, and how badly?   12&12 Step Four, p.50  
What people were hurt, and how badly?


193.
View HOW IT WORKS chapter   ... people were often quite wrong.   BB How It Works, pp.65-66  
The first thing apparent was that this world and its people were often quite wrong.


194.
View BILL'S STORY chapter   ... people were right after all.   BB Bill's Story, p.11  
It began to look as though religious people were right after all.


195.
View TRADITION ONE essay   ... people were stalemated in the search for ...   12&12 Tradition One, p.130  
If strong people were stalemated in the search for peace and harmony, what was to become of our erratic band of alcoholics?


196.
View TRADITION THREE essay   ... people were to become our principal teachers ...   12&12 Tradition Three, p.141  
Could we then foresee that troublesome people were to become our principal teachers of patience and tolerance?


197.
View TRADITION THREE essay   ... people were to make astonishing recoveries and ...   12&12 Tradition Three, p.140  
How could we know that thousands of these sometimes frightening people were to make astonishing recoveries and become our greatest workers and intimate friends?


198.
View TO WIVES chapter   ... people when they have a right to ...   BB To Wives, p.115  
Your desire to protect him should not cause you to lie to people when they have a right to know where he is and what he is doing.


199.
View HOW IT WORKS chapter   ... people wherever possible, except when to do ...   BB How It Works, p.59  
9. Made direct amends to such people wherever possible, except when to do so would injure them or others.


200.
View STEP NINE essay   ... people wherever possible, except when to do ...   12&12 Step Nine, p.83  
"Made direct amends to such people wherever possible, except when to do so would injure them or others."


201.
View STEP FOUR essay   ... people who are driven by pride of ...   12&12 Step Four, p.46  
This is because people who are driven by pride of self unconsciously blind themselves to their liabilities.


202.
View DOCTOR BOB'S NIGHTMARE story   ... people who attracted me because of their ...   BB Doctor Bob's Nightmare, p.178  
About the time of the beer experiment I was thrown in with a crowd of people who attracted me because of their seeming poise, health, and happiness.


203.
View HOW IT WORKS chapter   ... people who cannot or will not completely ...   BB How It Works, p.58  
Those who do not recover are people who cannot or will not completely give themselves to this simple program, usually men and women who are constitutionally incapable of being honest with themselves.


204.
View INTO ACTION chapter   ... people who do not understand alcoholics.   BB Into Action, p.74  
Of course, we sometimes encounter people who do not understand alcoholics.


205.
View APPENDIX I, The A.A. Tradition   ... people who financially support them.   BB Appendix I, The A.A. Tradition, p.564  
Their management should be the sole responsibility of those people who financially support them.


206.
View TRADITIONS LONG FORM   ... people who financially support them.   12&12 Tradition Six (Long), p.190  
Their management should be the sole responsibility of those people who financially support them.


207.
View TRADITION SEVEN essay   ... people who had money thought otherwise.   12&12 Tradition Seven, p.160  
But oddly enough, people who had money thought otherwise.


208.
View STEP FOUR essay   ... people who happen to be in the ...   12&12 Step Four, p.44  
If the pursuit of wealth tramples upon people who happen to be in the way, then anger, jealousy, and revenge are likely to be aroused.


209.
View STEP TWELVE essay   ... people who have been infected and sometimes ...   12&12 Step Twelve, p.112  
Can we have the same kind of confidence and faith in these people who have been infected and sometimes crippled by our own illness that we have in our sponsors?


210.
View STEP TWELVE essay   ... people who have found a way up ...   12&12 Step Twelve, p.125  
We have been talking about problems because we are problem people who have found a way up and out, and who wish to share our knowledge of that way with all who can use it.


211.
View STEP TWELVE essay   ... people who have had them.   12&12 Step Twelve, p.106  
Maybe there are as many definitions of spiritual awakening as there are people who have had them.


212.
View STEP FOUR essay   ... people who have instincts, too.   12&12 Step Four, p.44  
In these ways we are set in conflict not only with ourselves, but with other people who have instincts, too.


213.
View STEP TWO essay   ... people who have solved their alcohol problem.   12&12 Step Two, p.27  
Here's a very large group of people who have solved their alcohol problem.


214.
View STEP EIGHT essay   ... people who have, to some extent or ...   12&12 Step Eight, p.81  
Then, as year by year we walk back through our lives as far as memory will reach, we shall be bound to construct a long list of people who have, to some extent or other, been affected.


215.
View TRADITION EIGHT essay   ... people who knew the A.A. pitch.   12&12 Tradition Eight, p.168  
At the Foundation(*) and intergroup offices, we couldn't employ nonalcoholics as secretaries; we had to have people who knew the A.A. pitch.


216.
View TRADITION EIGHT essay   ... people who know.   12&12 Tradition Eight, p.169  
Sacks of letters on every conceivable A.A. problem ranging from a lonely-heart Eskimo to the growing pains of thousands of groups must be answered by people who know.


217.
View STEP NINE essay   ... people who know all about our drinking, ...   12&12 Step Nine, p.84  
We shall at once think of a few people who know all about our drinking, and who have been most affected by it.


218.
View TO WIVES chapter   ... people who lecture us.   BB To Wives, p.121  
If that is so we are sorry, for we ourselves don't always care for people who lecture us.


219.
View STEP TEN essay   ... people who, like us, are suffering from ...   12&12 Step Ten, p.92  
It will become more and more evident as we go forward that it is pointless to become angry, or to get hurt by people who, like us, are suffering from the pains of growing up.


220.
View STEP TWELVE essay   ... people who loved us.   12&12 Step Twelve, p.116  
For alcoholism had been a lonely business, even though we had been surrounded by people who loved us.


221.
View THERE IS A SOLUTION chapter   ... people who normally would not mix.   BB There Is A Solution, p.17  
We are people who normally would not mix.


222.
View FOREWORD TO FOURTH EDITION   ... people who normally would not mix" (page ...   BB Foreword to Fourth Edition, p.xxiii  
When the phrase "We are people who normally would not mix" (page 17 of this book) was written in 1939, it referred to a Fellowship composed largely of men (and a few women) with quite similar social, ethnic, and economic backgrounds.


223.
View STEP TWO essay   ... people who once believed as I do.   12&12 Step Two, p.26  
It's no doubt a fact that A.A. is full of people who once believed as I do.


224.
View WE AGNOSTICS chapter   ... people who proved that man could never ...   BB We Agnostics, p.55  
What about people who proved that man could never fly?


225.
View STEP FOUR essay   ... people who really need a moral inventory.   12&12 Step Four, p.45  
Our present anxieties and troubles, we cry, are caused by the behavior of other people -- people who really need a moral inventory.


226.
View WE AGNOSTICS chapter   ... people who rose above their problems.   BB We Agnostics, p.55  
Yet we had been seeing another kind of flight, a spiritual liberation from this world, people who rose above their problems.


227.
View MORE ABOUT ALCOHOLISM chapter   ... people who said that a problem had ...   BB More About Alcoholism, p.42  
I had never been able to understand people who said that a problem had them hopelessly defeated.


228.
View STEP FIVE essay   ... people who seemed to understand, the sense ...   12&12 Step Five, p.57  
When we reached A.A., and for the first time in our lives stood among people who seemed to understand, the sense of belonging was tremendously exciting.


229.
View MORE ABOUT ALCOHOLISM chapter   ... people, who showed definite signs of alcoholism, ...   BB More About Alcoholism, p.32  
We have heard of a few instances where people, who showed definite signs of alcoholism, were able to stop for a long period because of an overpowering desire to do so.


230.
View TRADITION ELEVEN essay   People who symbolize causes and ideas fill ...   12&12 Tradition Eleven, p.181  
People who symbolize causes and ideas fill a deep human need.


231.
View MORE ABOUT ALCOHOLISM chapter   ... people who, though drinking foolishly and heavily ...   BB More About Alcoholism, p.39  
That may be true of certain nonalcoholic people who, though drinking foolishly and heavily at the present time, are able to stop or moderate, because their brains and bodies have not been damaged as ours were.


232.
View STEP TWELVE essay   ... people who understand us; we don't have ...   12&12 Step Twelve, p.117  
Through it we begin to learn right relations with people who understand us; we don't have to be alone any more.


233.
View STEP ONE essay   ... people who were scarcely more than potential ...   12&12 Step One, p.23  
As this trend grew, they were joined by young people who were scarcely more than potential alcoholics.


234.
View HOW IT WORKS chapter   ... people who wronged us were perhaps spiritually ...   BB How It Works, p.66  
This was our course: We realized that the people who wronged us were perhaps spiritually sick.


235.
View THERE IS A SOLUTION chapter   ... people whose reactions are very different from ...   BB There Is A Solution, p.20  
We see that these expressions refer to people whose reactions are very different from ours.


236.
View STEP EIGHT essay   ... people whose woes we have increased.   12&12 Step Eight, p.78  
In many instances we are really dealing with fellow sufferers, people whose woes we have increased.


237.
View WORKING WITH OTHERS chapter   ... people will ask you to drink.   BB Working With Others, p.102  
If you do this thoroughly, few people will ask you to drink.


238.
View THE FAMILY AFTERWARD chapter   ... people will be helped by such contacts.   BB The Family Afterward, p.131  
Alcoholics who have derided religious people will be helped by such contacts.


239.
View STEP ONE essay   ... people will sincerely try to practice the ...   12&12 Step One, p.24  
The answer is that few people will sincerely try to practice the A.A. program unless they have hit bottom.


240.
View HOW IT WORKS chapter   ... people would do as he wished, the ...   BB How It Works, pp.60-61  
If his arrangements would only stay put, if only people would do as he wished, the show would be great.


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