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1.
View THE DOCTOR'S OPINION   ... others.  BB The Doctor's Opinion, p.xxv  
As part of his rehabilitation he commenced to present his conceptions to other alcoholics, impressing upon them that they must do likewise with still others.


2.
View BILL'S STORY chapter   ... others.  BB Bill's Story, p.13  
Never was I to pray for myself, except as my requests bore on my usefulness to others.


3.
View BILL'S STORY chapter   ... others.  BB Bill's Story, p.14  
They in turn might work with others.


4.
View THERE IS A SOLUTION chapter   ... others.  BB There Is A Solution, pp.19-20  
Most of us sense that real tolerance of other people's shortcomings and viewpoints and a respect for their opinions are attitudes which make us more useful to others.


5.
View HOW IT WORKS chapter   ... others.  BB How It Works, p.59  
9. Made direct amends to such people wherever possible, except when to do so would injure them or others.


6.
View HOW IT WORKS chapter   ... others.  BB How It Works, p.70  
If sex is very troublesome, we throw ourselves the harder into helping others.


7.
View INTO ACTION chapter   ... others.  BB Into Action, p.74  
The rule is we must be hard on ourself, but always considerate of others.


8.
View INTO ACTION chapter   ... others.  BB Into Action, p.82  
The alcoholic is like a tornado roaring his way through the lives of others.


9.
View INTO ACTION chapter   ... others.  BB Into Action, p.84  
No matter how far down the scale we have gone, we will see how our experience can benefit others.


10.
View INTO ACTION chapter   ... others.  BB Into Action, p.86  
But we must be careful not to drift into worry, remorse or morbid reflection, for that would diminish our usefulness to others.


11.
View TO WIVES chapter   ... others.  BB To Wives, pp.119-120  
Both of you will awaken to a new sense of responsibility for others.


12.
View THE FAMILY AFTERWARD chapter   ... others.  BB The Family Afterward, p.123  
Suppose we tell you some of the obstacles a family will meet; suppose we suggest how they may be avoided -- even converted to good use for others.


13.
View THE FAMILY AFTERWARD chapter   ... others.  BB The Family Afterward, p.124  
Cling to the thought that, in God's hands, the dark past is the greatest possession you have -- the key to life and happiness for others.


14.
View THE FAMILY AFTERWARD chapter   ... others.  BB The Family Afterward, p.132  
We have recovered, and have been given the power to help others.


15.
View A VISION FOR YOU chapter   ... others.  BB A Vision For You, p.159  
It was transcended by the happiness they found in giving themselves for others.


16.
View A VISION FOR YOU chapter   ... others.  BB A Vision For You, p.164  
See to it that your relationship with Him is right, and great events will come to pass for you and countless others.


17.
View APPENDIX V, The Religious View on AA   ... others.  BB Appendix V, The Religious View on A.A., p.572  
The Episcopal magazine, The Living Church, observes editorially: "The basis of the technique of Alcoholics Anonymous is the truly Christian principle that a man cannot help himself except by helping others.


18.
View CONTENTS   ... others.  12&12 Contents (Step Four), p.6  
Misguided moral inventory can result in guilt, grandiosity, or blaming others.


19.
View CONTENTS   ... others.  12&12 Contents (Step Eight), p.7  
Kinds of harm done to others.


20.
View CONTENTS   ... others."  12&12 Contents (Step Nine), p.7  
Step Nine -- "Made direct amends to such people wherever possible, except when to do so would injure them or others."


21.
View CONTENTS   ... others.  12&12 Contents (Step Nine), pp.7-8  
Peace of mind cannot be bought at the expense of others.


22.
View FOREWORD   ... others.  12&12 Foreword, p.17  
With the publication of the book "Alcoholics Anonymous" in 1939, the pioneering period ended and a prodigious chain reaction set in as the recovered alcoholics carried their message to still others.


23.
View STEP TWO essay   ... others.  12&12 Step Two, p.29  
We used our education to blow ourselves up into prideful balloons, though we were careful to hide this from others.


24.
View STEP FOUR essay   ... others.  12&12 Step Four, p.47  
We had to see that when we harbored grudges and planned revenge for such defeats, we were really beating ourselves with the club of anger we had intended to use on others.


25.
View STEP EIGHT essay   ... others.  12&12 Step Eight, p.78  
Moreover, it is usually a fact that our behavior when drinking has aggravated the defects of others.


26.
View STEP EIGHT essay   ... others.  12&12 Step Eight, p.80  
If our tempers are consistently bad, we arouse anger in others.


27.
View STEP EIGHT essay   ... others.  12&12 Step Eight, p.81  
Suppose we lavish attention upon one member of the family and neglect the others.


28.
View STEP EIGHT essay   ... others.  12&12 Step Eight, p.82  
Whenever our pencil falters, we can fortify and cheer ourselves by remembering what A.A. experience in this Step has meant to others.


29.
View STEP NINE essay   ... others."  12&12 Step Nine, p.83  
"Made direct amends to such people wherever possible, except when to do so would injure them or others."


30.
View STEP NINE essay   ... others.  12&12 Step Nine, p.84  
While we may be quite willing to reveal the very worst, we must be sure to remember that we cannot buy our own peace of mind at the expense of others.


31.
View STEP TWELVE essay   ... others.  12&12 Step Twelve, p.106  
But certainly each genuine one has something in common with all the others.


32.
View STEP TWELVE essay   ... others.  12&12 Step Twelve, p.116  
We were still trying to find emotional security by being dominating or dependent upon others.


33.
View TRADITION NINE essay   ... others.  12&12 Tradition Nine, p.174  
Great suffering and great love are A.A.'s disciplinarians; we need no others.


34.
View A VISION FOR YOU chapter   ... others, a fourth turned up.  BB A Vision For You, p.158  
After several failures to find others, a fourth turned up.


35.
View THE FAMILY AFTERWARD chapter   ... others' alcoholic troubles.  BB The Family Afterward, p.125  
Everyone knows about the others' alcoholic troubles.


36.
View THERE IS A SOLUTION chapter   ... others and how we may help meet ...  BB There Is A Solution, p.20  
Our very lives, as ex-problem drinkers, depend upon our constant thought of others and how we may help meet their needs.


37.
View TRADITION ONE essay   ... others, and in abiding faith they knew ...  12&12 Tradition One, p.131  
Each needed to consider the others, and in abiding faith they knew they must find their real strength.


38.
View TRADITION THREE essay   ... others, and in confidence laid the explosive ...  12&12 Tradition Three, p.142  
The oldest member summoned two others, and in confidence laid the explosive facts in their laps.


39.
View STEP FOUR essay   ... others and ourselves.  12&12 Step Four, p.43  
We wish to look squarely at the unhappiness this has caused others and ourselves.


40.
View FOREWORD TO SECOND EDITION   ... others, and the necessity of belief in ...  BB Foreword to Second Edition, p.xvi  
Though he could not accept all the tenets of the Oxford Groups, he was convinced of the need for moral inventory, confession of personality defects, restitution to those harmed, helpfulness to others, and the necessity of belief in and dependence upon God.


41.
View STEP SEVEN essay   ... others and toward God.  12&12 Step Seven, p.76  
The Seventh Step is where we make the change in our attitude which permits us, with humility as our guide, to move out from ourselves toward others and toward God.


42.
View STEP SEVEN essay   ... others, and upon God.  12&12 Step Seven, p.76  
We now clearly see that we have been making unreasonable demands upon ourselves, upon others, and upon God.


43.
View THERE IS A SOLUTION chapter   ... others, and we had come to believe ...  BB There Is A Solution, p.25  
But we saw that it really worked in others, and we had come to believe in the hopelessness and futility of life as we had been living it.


44.
View WORKING WITH OTHERS chapter   ... others and who will be glad to ...  BB Working With Others, p.90  
You should be described to him as one of a fellowship who, as part of their own recovery, try to help others and who will be glad to talk to him if he cares to see you.


45.
View THE DOCTOR'S OPINION   ... others appear to have recovered.  BB The Doctor's Opinion, p.xxv  
This man and over one hundred others appear to have recovered.


46.
View STEP ELEVEN essay   ... others are in the greatest need.  12&12 Step Eleven, p.102  
Having opened our channel as best we can, we try to ask for those right things of which we and others are in the greatest need.


47.
View TO WIVES chapter   ... others are involved -- the wife who trembles ...  BB To Wives, p.104  
But for every man who drinks others are involved -- the wife who trembles in fear of the next debauch; the mother and father who see their son wasting away.


48.
View HOW IT WORKS chapter   ... others are loose.  BB How It Works, p.70  
We realize that some people are as fanatical about sex as others are loose.


49.
View STEP FOUR essay   ... others are part of the cause, what ...  12&12 Step Four, p.52  
And if the actions of others are part of the cause, what can I do about that?


50.
View BILL'S STORY chapter   ... others as he had worked with me.  BB Bill's Story, p.14  
Particularly was it imperative to work with others as he had worked with me.


51.
View STEP TEN essay   ... others as I would have them do ...  12&12 Step Ten, p.93  
And we can often ask ourselves, "Am I doing to others as I would have them do to me -- today?"


52.
View STEP ELEVEN essay   ... others as well as for ourselves.  12&12 Step Eleven, p.104  
It is A.A.'s experience that particularly in these cases we ought to pray that God's will, whatever it is, be done for others as well as for ourselves.


53.
View INTO ACTION chapter   ... others, asked God to help and the ...  BB Into Action, p.80  
If we have obtained permission, have consulted with others, asked God to help and the drastic step is indicated we must not shrink.


54.
View STEP NINE essay   ... others at the same time, is the ...  12&12 Step Nine, p.87  
For the readiness to take the full consequences of our past acts, and to take responsibility for the well-being of others at the same time, is the very spirit of Step Nine.


55.
View STEP FOUR essay   ... others, but only slowly in ourselves.  12&12 Step Four, p.47  
We could perceive them quickly in others, but only slowly in ourselves.


56.
View WE AGNOSTICS chapter   Others came near putting Galileo to death ...  BB We Agnostics, p.51  
Others came near putting Galileo to death for his astronomical heresies.


57.
View STEP TWO essay   ... others can't, and still others who do ...  12&12 Step Two, p.25  
Some of us won't believe in God, others can't, and still others who do believe that God exists have no faith whatever He will perform this miracle.


58.
View TRADITION FOUR essay   ... others "Catholic" or "Protestant."  12&12 Tradition Four, p.147  
There would be real danger should we commence to call some groups "wet," others "dry," still others "Republican" or "Communist," and yet others "Catholic" or "Protestant."


59.
View TO WIVES chapter   ... others close to alcoholics. The foregoing pages ...  BB To Wives (Note), p.121  
(*) The fellowship of Al-Anon Family Groups was formed about thirteen years after this chapter was written. Though it is entirely separate from Alcoholics Anonymous, it uses the general principles of the A.A. program as a guide for husbands, wives, relatives, friends and others close to alcoholics. The foregoing pages (though addressed only to wives) indicate the problems such people may face. Alateen, for teen-aged children of alcoholics, is a part of Al-Anon.


60.
View THE FAMILY AFTERWARD chapter   ... others concede to him, the more resentful ...  BB The Family Afterward, p.122  
We find the more one member of the family demands that the others concede to him, the more resentful they become.


61.
View TRADITION FOUR essay   ... others could be cured maybe with a ...  12&12 Tradition Four, p.148  
The personality defects of others could be cured maybe with a loan.


62.
View TRADITION FOUR essay   ... others "dry," still others "Republican" or "Communist," ...  12&12 Tradition Four, p.147  
There would be real danger should we commence to call some groups "wet," others "dry," still others "Republican" or "Communist," and yet others "Catholic" or "Protestant."


63.
View TRADITION EIGHT essay   ... others entered the field of alcohol education.  12&12 Tradition Eight, p.167  
Even greater furors were provoked when A.A. members began to run rest homes and farms for alcoholics, when some hired out to corporations as personnel men in charge of the alcoholic problem in industry, when some became nurses on alcoholic wards, when others entered the field of alcohol education.


64.
View WORKING WITH OTHERS chapter   ... others fail.  BB Working With Others, p.89  
You can secure their confidence when others fail.


65.
View STEP FOUR essay   ... others failed to recognize my truly exceptional ...  12&12 Step Four, p.51  
Or by griping that others failed to recognize my truly exceptional abilities?


66.
View HOW IT WORKS chapter   ... others, fancied or real, had power to ...  BB How It Works, p.66  
In that state, the wrong-doing of others, fancied or real, had power to actually kill.


67.
View THE FAMILY AFTERWARD chapter   ... others favorably, but criticism or ridicule coming ...  BB The Family Afterward, p.125  
A man may criticize or laugh at himself and it will affect others favorably, but criticism or ridicule coming from another often produces the contrary effect.


68.
View TRADITION TEN essay   Others fell apart because of sheer self-righteousness ...  12&12 Tradition Ten, p.176  
Others fell apart because of sheer self-righteousness while trying to enforce upon the rest of mankind some millennium of their own specification.


69.
View THE FAMILY AFTERWARD chapter   ... others find we are soon overcome by ...  BB The Family Afterward, p.132  
But those of us who have tried to shoulder the entire burden and trouble of others find we are soon overcome by them.


70.
View STEP FIVE essay   ... others for them.  12&12 Step Five, p.59  
Or anger and hurt pride might be the smoke screen under which we were hiding some of our defects while we blamed others for them.


71.
View A VISION FOR YOU chapter   ... others from the stream of misery which ...  BB A Vision For You, p.163  
Arrangements were also made with the chief psychiatrist of a large public hospital to select still others from the stream of misery which flows through that institution.


72.
View TRADITION TWO essay   ... others had.  12&12 Tradition Two, p.137  
Although none of the alcoholics we boarded seemed to get sober, some others had.


73.
View DOCTOR BOB'S NIGHTMARE story   ... others had done or said?"  BB Doctor Bob's Nightmare, p.180  
The question which might naturally come into your mind would be: "what did the man do or say that was different from what others had done or said?"


74.
View HOW IT WORKS chapter   ... others had done, we resolutely looked for ...  BB How It Works, p.67  
Putting out of our minds the wrongs others had done, we resolutely looked for our own mistakes.


75.
View STEP EIGHT essay   ... others has not been great, the emotional ...  12&12 Step Eight, p.79  
In many instances we shall find that though the harm done others has not been great, the emotional harm we have done ourselves has.


76.
View THE DOCTOR'S OPINION   ... others, have one symptom in common: they ...  BB The Doctor's Opinion, p.xxx  
All these, and many others, have one symptom in common: they cannot start drinking without developing the phenomenon of craving.


77.
View BILL'S STORY chapter   ... others, he could not survive the certain ...  BB Bill's Story, pp.14-15  
For if an alcoholic failed to perfect and enlarge his spiritual life through work and self-sacrifice for others, he could not survive the certain trials and low spots ahead.


78.
View TRADITION THREE essay   ... others he later helped?"  12&12 Tradition Three, p.145  
What would have happened to him and all the others he later helped?"


79.
View THE FAMILY AFTERWARD chapter   ... others, he lays a basis for helpful ...  BB The Family Afterward, p.127  
As each member of a resentful family begins to see his shortcomings and admits them to the others, he lays a basis for helpful discussion.


80.
View STEP NINE essay   ... others heavier.  12&12 Step Nine, p.86  
It does not lighten our burden when we recklessly make the crosses of others heavier.


81.
View TRADITION TWELVE essay   Others hurried to place themselves before microphones ...  12&12 Tradition Twelve, p.185  
Others hurried to place themselves before microphones and cameras.


82.
View STEP NINE essay   ... others in which by the very nature ...  12&12 Step Nine, p.83  
There will be other cases where action ought to be deferred, and still others in which by the very nature of the situation we shall never be able to make direct personal contact at all.


83.
View STEP EIGHT essay   ... others involved.  12&12 Step Eight, p.82  
We should avoid extreme judgments, both of ourselves and of others involved.


84.
View CONTENTS   ... others is a fascinating adventure.  12&12 Contents (Step Eight), p.7  
Learning to live with others is a fascinating adventure.


85.
View INTO ACTION chapter   ... others is our code.  BB Into Action, p.84  
Love and tolerance of others is our code.


86.
View CONTENTS   ... others is our one aim.  12&12 Contents (Tradition Five), pp.10-11  
The ability of each A.A. to identify himself with and bring recovery to the newcomer is a gift from God... passing on this gift to others is our one aim.


87.
View STEP EIGHT essay   ... others is paramount, it is equally necessary ...  12&12 Step Eight, p.80  
While the purpose of making restitution to others is paramount, it is equally necessary that we extricate from an examination of our personal relations every bit of information about ourselves and our fundamental difficulties that we can.


88.
View CONTENTS   ... others is spirit of Step Nine.  12&12 Contents (Step Nine), p.8  
Readiness to take consequences of our past and to take responsibility for well-being of others is spirit of Step Nine.


89.
View WORKING WITH OTHERS chapter   ... others is the foundation stone of your ...  BB Working With Others, p.97  
Helping others is the foundation stone of your recovery.


90.
View TO EMPLOYERS chapter   ... others it may not.  BB To Employers, p.144  
In some cases it will, and in others it may not.


91.
View STEP TWO essay   ... others it seemed impossibly bad.  12&12 Step Two, p.30  
In spots its morality was impossibly good; in others it seemed impossibly bad.


92.
View TRADITION FIVE essay   ... others like us is the one aim ...  12&12 Tradition Five, p.151  
This is our gift from God, and its bestowal upon others like us is the one aim that today animates A.A.'s all around the globe.


93.
View STEP FIVE essay   ... others may be by no means infallible, ...  12&12 Step Five, p.60  
While the comment or advice of others may be by no means infallible, it is likely to be far more specific than any direct guidance we may receive while we are still so inexperienced in establishing contact with a Power greater than ourselves.


94.
View A VISION FOR YOU chapter   ... others may survive and rediscover life.  BB A Vision For You, p.153  
Then you will know what it means to give of yourself that others may survive and rediscover life.


95.
View THE FAMILY AFTERWARD chapter   ... others' minds for them.  BB The Family Afterward, p.132  
As non-denominational people, we cannot make up others' minds for them.


96.
View STEP NINE essay   ... others more harm than good.  12&12 Step Nine, p.83  
There will be those to whom we can make only partial restitution, lest complete disclosures do them or others more harm than good.


97.
View THE FAMILY AFTERWARD chapter   ... others must be convinced of his new ...  BB The Family Afterward, p.135  
The others must be convinced of his new status beyond the shadow of a doubt.


98.
View STEP FIVE essay   ... others, no matter how deeply we felt ...  12&12 Step Five, p.58  
Often it was while working on this Step with our sponsors or spiritual advisers that we first felt truly able to forgive others, no matter how deeply we felt they had wronged us.


99.
View STEP EIGHT essay   ... others not only of their worldly goods, ...  12&12 Step Eight, p.80  
If we lie or cheat, we deprive others not only of their worldly goods, but of their emotional security and peace of mind.


100.
View INTO ACTION chapter   ... others, of what we could pack into ...  BB Into Action, p.86  
Or were we thinking of what we could do for others, of what we could pack into the stream of life?


101.
View STEP TWELVE essay   ... others or by any calamity not of ...  12&12 Step Twelve, p.116  
These were the new attitudes that finally brought many of us an inner strength and peace that could not be deeply shaken by the shortcomings of others or by any calamity not of our own making.


102.
View STEP FIVE essay   ... others, or we were apt to be ...  12&12 Step Five, p.57  
Either we were shy, and dared not draw near others, or we were apt to be noisy good fellows craving attention and companionship, but never getting it -- at least to our way of thinking.


103.
View STEP FIVE essay   ... others ought to know.  12&12 Step Five, p.61  
Perhaps we shall need to share with this person facts about ourselves which no others ought to know.


104.
View CONTENTS   ... others; purposeful forgetting.  12&12 Contents (Step Eight), p.7  
Obstacles: reluctance to forgive; nonadmission of wrongs to others; purposeful forgetting.


105.
View TRADITION FOUR essay   ... others "Republican" or "Communist," and yet others ...  12&12 Tradition Four, p.147  
There would be real danger should we commence to call some groups "wet," others "dry," still others "Republican" or "Communist," and yet others "Catholic" or "Protestant."


106.
View STEP FOUR essay   ... others seem to be realized while ours ...  12&12 Step Four, p.49  
Unreasonable fear that our instincts will not be satisfied drives us to covet the possessions of others, to lust for sex and power, to become angry when our instinctive demands are threatened, to be envious when the ambitions of others seem to be realized while ours are not.


107.
View TRADITION FIVE essay   ... others seldom can.  12&12 Tradition Five, p.150  
Just as firmly bound by obligation are the members of Alcoholics Anonymous, who have demonstrated that they can help problem drinkers as others seldom can.


108.
View WE AGNOSTICS chapter   ... others showed us that "God-sufficiency" worked with ...  BB We Agnostics, p.52  
When others showed us that "God-sufficiency" worked with them, we began to feel like those who had insisted the Wrights would never fly.


109.
View WORKING WITH OTHERS chapter   ... others slip when the family came back ...  BB Working With Others, p.100  
We have seen others slip when the family came back too soon.


110.
View WORKING WITH OTHERS chapter   ... others, so never hesitate to go anywhere ...  BB Working With Others, p.102  
Your job now is to be at the place where you may be of maximum helpfulness to others, so never hesitate to go anywhere if you can be helpful.


111.
View WE AGNOSTICS chapter   ... others solve their problems by a simple ...  BB We Agnostics, p.52  
When we saw others solve their problems by a simple reliance upon the Spirit of the Universe, we had to stop doubting the power of God.


112.
View TRADITION FOUR essay   ... others started in the club, pitched a ...  12&12 Tradition Four, p.148  
Some would start at the top and come through to the bottom, becoming club members; others started in the club, pitched a binge, were hospitalized, then graduated to education on the third floor.


113.
View THE DOCTOR'S OPINION   ... others taking with impunity.  BB The Doctor's Opinion, pp.xxviii-xxix  
They are restless, irritable and discontented, unless they can again experience the sense of ease and comfort which comes at once by taking a few drinks -- drinks which they see others taking with impunity.


114.
View APPENDIX VII, Twelve Concepts (Short Form)   ... others; that it reach all important decisions ...  BB Appendix VII, Twelve Concepts (Short Form), p.575  
XII. The Conference shall observe the spirit of A.A. tradition, taking care that it never becomes the seat of perilous wealth or power; that sufficient operating funds and reserve be its prudent financial principle; that it place none of its members in a position of unqualified authority over others; that it reach all important decisions by discussion, vote, and, whenever possible, by substantial unanimity; that its actions never be personally punitive nor an incitement to public controversy; that it never perform acts of government, and that, like the Society it serves, it will always remain democratic in thought and action.


115.
View STEP EIGHT essay   ... others -- the kind that make daily living ...  12&12 Step Eight, p.81  
Such a roster of harms done others -- the kind that make daily living with us as practicing alcoholics difficult and often unbearable -- could be extended almost indefinitely.


116.
View A VISION FOR YOU chapter   ... others, the things which matter so much ...  BB A Vision For You, p.161  
Being wrecked in the same vessel, being restored and united under one God, with hearts and minds attuned to the welfare of others, the things which matter so much to some people no longer signify much to them.


117.
View WE AGNOSTICS chapter   ... others, the word "God" brought up a ...  BB We Agnostics, p.45  
To others, the word "God" brought up a particular idea of Him with which someone had tried to impress them during childhood.


118.
View STEP FIVE essay   ... others, then the need to quit living ...  12&12 Step Five, p.55  
If we have swept the searchlight of Step Four back and forth over our careers, and it has revealed in stark relief those experiences we'd rather not remember, if we have come to know how wrong thinking and action have hurt us and others, then the need to quit living by ourselves with those tormenting ghosts of yesterday gets more urgent than ever.


119.
View A VISION FOR YOU chapter   ... others to face life again, there will ...  BB A Vision For You, pp.163-164  
When a few men in this city have found themselves, and have discovered the joy of helping others to face life again, there will be no stopping until everyone in that town has had his opportunity to recover -- if he can and will.


120.
View A VISION FOR YOU chapter   ... others to health.  BB A Vision For You, p.153  
In the chapter "Working With Others" you gathered an idea of how we approach and aid others to health.


121.
View TRADITION ELEVEN essay   ... others to join us?  12&12 Tradition Eleven, p.182  
Provided they were willing -- and many were -- why shouldn't their membership be publicized, thereby encouraging others to join us?


122.
View STEP FOUR essay   ... others, to lust for sex and power, ...  12&12 Step Four, p.49  
Unreasonable fear that our instincts will not be satisfied drives us to covet the possessions of others, to lust for sex and power, to become angry when our instinctive demands are threatened, to be envious when the ambitions of others seem to be realized while ours are not.


123.
View STEP FOUR essay   ... others to our own willful desires, they ...  12&12 Step Four, p.53  
When we habitually try to manipulate others to our own willful desires, they revolt, and resist us heavily.


124.
View PREAMBLE   ... others to recover from alcoholism.  Grapevine Preamble  
Alcoholics Anonymous is a fellowship of men and women who share their experience, strength and hope with each other that they may solve their common problem and help others to recover from alcoholism.


125.
View INTO ACTION chapter   ... others to save himself from the alcoholic ...  BB Into Action, p.79  
Therefore, we are not to be the hasty and foolish martyr who would needlessly sacrifice others to save himself from the alcoholic pit.


126.
View STEP TEN essay   ... others to understand him, when in actuality ...  12&12 Step Ten, p.94  
Or, the person concerned not being present, we thought we were helping others to understand him, when in actuality our true motive was to feel superior by pulling him down.


127.
View WORKING WITH OTHERS chapter   ... others, to watch loneliness vanish, to see ...  BB Working With Others, p.89  
To watch people recover, to see them help others, to watch loneliness vanish, to see a fellowship grow up about you, to have a host of friends -- this is an experience you must not miss.


128.
View STEP FOUR essay   ... others, unhappiness follows.  12&12 Step Four, p.44  
Every time a person imposes his instincts unreasonably upon others, unhappiness follows.


129.
View STEP TWO essay   ... others, was our own besetting evil.  12&12 Step Two, p.30  
Self-righteousness, the very thing that we had contemptuously condemned in others, was our own besetting evil.


130.
View HOW IT WORKS chapter   ... others, we are quite sure to drink.  BB How It Works, p.70  
If we are not sorry, and our conduct continues to harm others, we are quite sure to drink.


131.
View STEP THREE essay   ... others, "We are right and you are ...  12&12 Step Three, p.37  
Each fragment says to the others, "We are right and you are wrong."


132.
View STEP EIGHT essay   ... others, we can now commence to ransack ...  12&12 Step Eight, p.81  
Having carefully surveyed this whole area of human relations, and having decided exactly what personality traits in us injured and disturbed others, we can now commence to ransack memory for the people to whom we have given offense.


133.
View STEP TWELVE essay   ... others, we often discover a greater challenge ...  12&12 Step Twelve, p.114  
But also like others, we often discover a greater challenge in the lesser and more continuous problems of life.


134.
View HOW IT WORKS chapter   ... others were wrong was as far as ...  BB How It Works, p.66  
To conclude that others were wrong was as far as most of us ever got.


135.
View A VISION FOR YOU chapter   ... others what they had found, or be ...  BB A Vision For You, p.158  
So, you see, there were three alcoholics in that town, who now felt they had to give to others what they had found, or be sunk.


136.
View STEP SEVEN essay   ... others which are just as disturbing to ...  12&12 Step Seven, p.73  
And we cling with a passionate persistence to others which are just as disturbing to our equilibrium, because we still enjoy them too much.


137.
View STEP FOUR essay   ... others which cannot be met without perverting ...  12&12 Step Four, p.49  
Pride lures us into making demands upon ourselves or upon others which cannot be met without perverting or misusing our God-given instincts.


138.
View FOREWORD TO SECOND EDITION   ... others who became our able and persistent ...  BB Foreword to Second Edition, p.xx  
Another reason for the wide acceptance of A.A. was the ministration of friends -- friends in medicine, religion, and the press, together with innumerable others who became our able and persistent advocates.


139.
View STEP TWO essay   ... others who do believe that God exists ...  12&12 Step Two, p.25  
Some of us won't believe in God, others can't, and still others who do believe that God exists have no faith whatever He will perform this miracle.


140.
View STEP TWELVE essay   ... others who encounter heavy financial reverses.  12&12 Step Twelve, p.114  
Though the earning power of most A.A.'s is relatively high, we have some members who never seem to get on their feet moneywise, and still others who encounter heavy financial reverses.


141.
View TRADITION TWELVE essay   ... others who had tried to help him ...  12&12 Tradition Twelve, pp.185-186  
He also wanted to tell others who had tried to help him -- his doctor, his minister, and close friends.


142.
View WORKING WITH OTHERS chapter   ... others, who have since recovered, of their ...  BB Working With Others, p.96  
He often says that if he had continued to work on them, he might have deprived many others, who have since recovered, of their chance.


143.
View STEP TWELVE essay   ... others who still suffered the same fears ...  12&12 Step Twelve, p.122  
When, with God's help, we calmly accepted our lot, then we found we could live at peace with ourselves and show others who still suffered the same fears that they could get over them, too.


144.
View THE FAMILY AFTERWARD chapter   ... others who suffer how we were given ...  BB The Family Afterward, p.124  
Showing others who suffer how we were given help is the very thing which makes life seem so worth while to us now.


145.
View DOCTOR BOB'S NIGHTMARE story   ... others who want and need it badly.  BB Doctor Bob's Nightmare, p.180  
I spend a great deal of time passing on what I learned to others who want and need it badly.


146.
View STEP EIGHT essay   ... others who were still happily unaware of ...  12&12 Step Eight, p.79  
There were cases, too, where we had damaged others who were still happily unaware of being hurt.


147.
View STEP FOUR essay   ... others, why do I lack the ability ...  12&12 Step Four, p.52  
Or, if my disturbance was seemingly caused by the behavior of others, why do I lack the ability to accept conditions I cannot change?


148.
View INTO ACTION chapter   ... others will be helped.  BB Into Action, p.87  
We may ask for ourselves, however, if others will be helped.


149.
View STEP FOUR essay   ... others will call it an index of ...  12&12 Step Four, p.48  
Still others will call it an index of maladjustments.


150.
View STEP FIVE essay   ... others will relapse periodically until they really ...  12&12 Step Five, p.56  
Some people are unable to stay sober at all; others will relapse periodically until they really clean house.


151.
View STEP FOUR essay   ... others will think of this list as ...  12&12 Step Four, p.48  
Some others will think of this list as defects of character.


152.
View APPENDIX III, The Medical View on A.A.   ... others with similar problems ... In this atmosphere ...  BB Appendix III, The Medical View on A.A., p.570  
They help others with similar problems ... In this atmosphere the alcoholic often overcomes his excessive concentration upon himself.


153.
View STEP TWELVE essay   ... others -- women and men -- they can devote ...  12&12 Step Twelve, p.120  
In partnership with others -- women and men -- they can devote themselves to any number of ideas, people, and constructive projects.


154.
View TRADITION THREE essay   ... others would surely destroy us.  12&12 Tradition Three, p.140  
Any others would surely destroy us.


155.
View A VISION FOR YOU chapter   ... Others" you gathered an idea of how ...  BB A Vision For You, p.153  
In the chapter "Working With Others" you gathered an idea of how we approach and aid others to health.


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