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Alcoholics Anonymous (Big Book) and
Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions (12 & 12)
HUSBAND occurs
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1.
... husband.
12&12 p.86,
Step Nine
2.
... husband.
BB p.81,
Into Action
It is as
good for the
wife as
for the
husband.
3.
... husband.
BB p.108,
To Wives
These are some of the
questions which
race through the
mind of every
woman who has an
alcoholic
husband.
4.
... husband.
BB p.111,
To Wives
Do not
set your
heart on
reforming your
husband.
5.
... husband.
BB p.115,
To Wives
But you
must be on
guard not
to
embarrass or
harm your
husband.
6.
... husband.
BB p.117,
To Wives
These
family dissensions are very
dangerous,
especially
to your
husband.
7.
... husband.
BB p.119,
To Wives
Therefore, you
probably need fresh interests and a
great cause to
live for as much as
your
husband.
8.
... husband.
BB p.104,
To Wives (Note)
(*)
Written in
1939, when
there were few
women in
A.A.,
this
chapter assumes
that the
alcoholic in the
home is
likely to be the
husband.
9.
... husband already.
BB p.158,
A Vision For You
His
wife came,
scarcely daring to be
hopeful, though she
thought
she saw something
different about her
husband already.
10.
... husband are working together toward an undreamed-of ...
BB p.119,
To Wives
After all, your
family is
reunited,
alcohol is no
longer a
problem and you and
your
husband are
working together toward an
undreamed-of
future.
11.
... husband as the radically changed attitude toward ...
BB p.117,
To Wives
We
urge you to
try our
program, for
nothing will
be so
helpful to your
husband as the
radically changed attitude toward him which
God will
show you how to have.
12.
... husband at length, you can quietly let ...
BB p.115,
To Wives
While you
need not
discuss
your
husband at
length, you
can
quietly let your
friends know the
nature of his
illness.
13.
... husband becomes a sick and irresponsible child ...
12&12 p.118,
Step Twelve
14.
... husband becomes unbearable and you have to ...
BB p.111,
To Wives
Even though your
husband becomes unbearable and
you have to
leave him
temporarily, you should, if you can, go without
rancor.
15.
... husband begins to feel lonely, sorry for ...
BB p.81,
Into Action
The
husband begins to
feel lonely,
sorry for himself.
16.
... husband can get right down to fundamentals.
BB p.120,
To Wives
Then you and your
husband can get
right down to
fundamentals.
17.
... husband's chance of recovery.
BB p.120,
To Wives
18.
... husband's company insurance was still in force.
BB p.137,
To Employers
She
wanted to
know if her
husband's
company insurance was still in
force.
19.
... husband continues to drink.
BB p.111,
To Wives
It is
possible to have a
full and
useful life, though your
husband continues to
drink.
20.
... husband's drinking is not going to spoil ...
BB p.111,
To Wives
Be
determined that your
husband's
drinking is not
going to
spoil your
relations with your
children or your
friends.
21.
... husband's employer and his friends that he ...
BB p.115,
To Wives
Frequently, you have
felt obliged to tell your
husband's
employer and his
friends that he was
sick,
when as a
matter of
fact he
was
tight.
22.
... husband explain.
BB p.115,
To Wives
23.
... husband find a solution for the pressing ...
BB p.117,
To Wives
If you and your
husband find a
solution for the
pressing
problem of
drink you are,
of
course,
going to be very
happy.
24.
... husband fits the description of number two.
BB p.112,
To Wives
Suppose, however, that your
husband fits the
description of
number two.
25.
... husband for drinking; he's my friend; she's ...
BB p.65,
How It Works
26.
... husband has been living in that strange ...
BB p.108,
To Wives
Perhaps your
husband has been
living in that
strange world of
alcoholism where
everything is
distorted and
exaggerated.
27.
... husband has gone much further than husband ...
BB p.109,
To Wives
Three: This
husband has
gone much
further than
husband number two.
28.
... husband have been living too much alone, ...
BB p.119,
To Wives
It is
probably true that
you and your
husband have been
living too much alone, for
drinking many
times isolates the
wife of an
alcoholic.
29.
... husband he wants to stop drinking forever.
BB p.116,
To Wives
30.
... husband if you possibly can.
BB p.117,
To Wives
Go along with your
husband if you
possibly can.
31.
... husband's interest, it may be best to ...
BB p.112,
To Wives
If this
kind of
approach
does not
catch your
husband's
interest, it may be
best
to
drop the
subject, but
after a
friendly talk your
husband will usually
revive
the
topic himself.
32.
... husband into debt by irresponsibility, waste, and ...
12&12 p.51,
Step Four
33.
... husband is a drinker, you probably worry ...
BB p.114,
To Wives
If your
husband is a
drinker, you
probably worry over what other people are
thinking and you
hate to
meet your
friends.
34.
... husband is bad, you become a trembling ...
BB p.115,
To Wives
35.
... husband is otherwise a normal individual, your ...
BB p.113,
To Wives
If your
husband is
otherwise a
normal individual, your
chances
are
good at this
stage.
36.
... husband is showing lack of control, for ...
BB p.109,
To Wives
Two: Your
husband is
showing lack of
control, for he is
unable to
stay on the
water wagon even when he
wants to.
37.
... husband is trying to live on a ...
BB p.118,
To Wives
If your
husband is
trying to
live on a
spiritual basis, he will also be doing
everything in his
power to
avoid disagreement or
contention.
38.
... husband joins A.A., the wife may become ...
12&12 p.118,
Step Twelve
After the
husband joins A.A., the
wife may
become discontented,
even
highly resentful
that
Alcoholics Anonymous has done the very thing that all her
years of
devotion had
failed to do.
39.
... husband knows he owes you more than ...
BB p.118,
To Wives
Your
husband knows he
owes you more than
sobriety.
40.
... husband's liquor problem or He has not.
BB p.120,
To Wives
God has either
removed your
husband's
liquor problem or He has not.
41.
... husband may be only a heavy drinker.
BB p.108,
To Wives
One: Your
husband may be only a
heavy drinker.
42.
... husband may be willing to talk to ...
BB p.112,
To Wives
Your
husband may be
willing
to
talk to one of them.
43.
... husband may become so wrapped up in ...
12&12 p.118,
Step Twelve
Her
husband may
become so
wrapped up in
A.A. and his new
friends that he is
inconsiderately away from
home more than when he
drank.
44.
... husband may come to appreciate your reasonableness ...
BB p.111,
To Wives
45.
... husband may stop or moderate.
BB p.112,
To Wives
If you
act upon these
principles, your
husband
may
stop or
moderate.
46.
... husband no matter what he says or ...
BB p.108,
To Wives
Try not to
condemn your
alcoholic husband no
matter what he says or does.
47.
... husband number one.
BB p.110,
To Wives
Let's now go back to
husband number one.
48.
... husband number one should be practiced.
BB p.112,
To Wives
The same
principles which
apply to
husband number one should be
practiced.
49.
... husband number two.
BB p.109,
To Wives
Three: This
husband has
gone much
further than
husband number two.
50.
... husband of whom you completely despair.
BB p.110,
To Wives
Four: You may have a
husband
of whom you
completely despair.
51.
... husband, ought to think of what you ...
BB p.120,
To Wives
You, as well as your
husband, ought to
think of what you can
put into
life instead of how much you can take out.
52.
... husband's parents for desertion.
BB p.106,
To Wives
Then we were
severely criticized by our
husband's
parents for
desertion.
53.
... husband read this book.
BB p.114,
To Wives
In any
event,
try to have your
husband read this book.
54.
... husband to distant places on the theory ...
BB p.101,
Working With Others
Ask any
woman who has
sent her
husband to
distant places on the
theory he would
escape the
alcohol problem.
55.
... husband were a weak character.
BB p.115,
To Wives
You will no
longer be
self-
conscious or
feel that you
must apologize as though your
husband were a
weak character.
56.
... husband whenever there is an honest difference ...
BB p.117,
To Wives
We do not
mean that you have to
agree with your
husband whenever there is an
honest
difference of
opinion.
57.
... husband who is at large, but who ...
BB p.114,
To Wives
Perhaps you have a
husband who is at
large, but who should be
committed.
58.
... husband who is recovering.
BB p.122,
The Family Afterward
Our
women folk have
suggested certain attitudes a
wife may take
with the
husband who is
recovering.
59.
... husband will be put to the test.
BB p.117,
To Wives
The
faith and
sincerity
of both you and your
husband will be
put to the
test.
60.
... husband will be the first to say ...
BB p.118,
To Wives
Your
husband will be the
first to say it was your
devotion and
care which
brought him to the
point where he could have a
spiritual experience.
61.
... husband will find that you can dispose ...
BB p.118,
To Wives
You and your
husband will find that you can
dispose of
serious problems easier than you
can the
trivial ones.
62.
... husband will lose his position; you are ...
BB p.116,
To Wives
You may be
afraid your
husband will
lose his
position; you are
thinking of the
disgrace
and
hard times which will
befall you and the
children.
63.
... husband will make a fair start on ...
BB p.120,
To Wives
Perhaps your
husband will make a
fair start on the new
basis, but just as things are
going beautifully he
dismays you by
coming home drunk.
64.
... husband will see at once that he ...
BB p.120,
To Wives
Your
husband will see at once that he
must redouble his
spiritual activities
if he
expects to
survive.
65.
... husband will sometimes be unreasonable and you ...
BB p.117,
To Wives
Your
husband will sometimes be
unreasonable and you will
want to
criticize.
66.
... husband will usually revive the topic himself.
BB p.112,
To Wives
If this
kind of
approach
does not
catch your
husband's
interest, it may be
best
to
drop the
subject, but
after a
friendly talk your
husband will usually
revive
the
topic himself.
67.
... husband, you may be in luck.
BB p.113,
To Wives
If you have a
number three
husband, you may be in
luck.
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