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1.
View BILL'S STORY chapter   ... friends.   BB Bill's Story, p.3  
I made a host of fair-weather friends.


2.
View BILL'S STORY chapter   ... friends.   BB Bill's Story, p.4  
I was finished and so were many friends.


3.
View INTO ACTION chapter   ... friends.   BB Into Action, p.80  
This brings to mind a story about one of our friends.


4.
View WORKING WITH OTHERS chapter   ... friends.   BB Working With Others, p.95  
He should not be pushed or prodded by you, his wife, or his friends.


5.
View TO WIVES chapter   ... friends.   BB To Wives, p.109  
Sometimes he is a source of embarrassment to you and his friends.


6.
View TO WIVES chapter   ... friends.   BB To Wives, p.109  
Maybe he is beginning to lose his friends.


7.
View TO WIVES chapter   ... friends.   BB To Wives, p.111  
Be determined that your husband's drinking is not going to spoil your relations with your children or your friends.


8.
View TO WIVES chapter   ... friends.   BB To Wives, p.114  
If your husband is a drinker, you probably worry over what other people are thinking and you hate to meet your friends.


9.
View TO WIVES chapter   ... friends.   BB To Wives, p.119  
We suggest that you direct some of your thought to the wives of his new alcoholic friends.


10.
View TO EMPLOYERS chapter   ... friends.   BB To Employers, p.147  
Men under them are frequently their friends.


11.
View A VISION FOR YOU chapter   ... friends.   BB A Vision For You, p.152  
Among them you will make lifelong friends.


12.
View A VISION FOR YOU chapter   ... friends.   BB A Vision For You, p.156  
But life was not easy for the two friends.


13.
View A VISION FOR YOU chapter   ... friends.   BB A Vision For You, p.162  
There are the same fast friendships, there is the same helpfulness to one another as you find among our western friends.


14.
View DOCTOR BOB'S NIGHTMARE story   ... friends.   BB Doctor Bob's Nightmare, p.177  
During all this time we became more or less ostracized by our friends.


15.
View STEP FOUR essay   ... friends.   12&12 Step Four, p.43  
Going to the extreme, he can become a miser, or even a recluse who denies himself both family and friends.


16.
View STEP SIX essay   ... friends.   12&12 Step Six, p.63  
So declares a well-loved clergyman who happens to be one of A.A.'s greatest friends.


17.
View TRADITION TWO essay   ... friends.   12&12 Tradition Two, p.133  
At this moment, the benign dictator becomes the chairman of a committee composed of his friends.


18.
View TRADITION TWO essay   ... friends.   12&12 Tradition Two, p.135  
Let's turn again to the deposed founder and his friends.


19.
View TRADITION TWO essay   ... friends.   12&12 Tradition Two, p.138  
Here was the true voice, welling up out of my friends.


20.
View TRADITION THREE essay   ... friends?   12&12 Tradition Three, pp.140-141  
How could we know that thousands of these sometimes frightening people were to make astonishing recoveries and become our greatest workers and intimate friends?


21.
View TRADITION ELEVEN essay   ... friends.   12&12 Tradition Eleven, pp.181-182  
On almost every newsfront, the men and women of the press have attached themselves to us as friends.


22.
View TRADITION TWELVE essay   ... friends.   12&12 Tradition Twelve, p.184  
New prospects could find us only through a few trusted friends.


23.
View TRADITION TWELVE essay   ... friends.   12&12 Tradition Twelve, pp.185-186  
He also wanted to tell others who had tried to help him -- his doctor, his minister, and close friends.


24.
View A VISION FOR YOU chapter   ... friends and a feeling that life is ...   BB A Vision For You, p.151  
It is joyous intimacy with friends and a feeling that life is good.


25.
View BILL'S STORY chapter   ... friends and a fellowship has grown up ...   BB Bill's Story, p.15  
We commenced to make many fast friends and a fellowship has grown up among us of which it is a wonderful thing to feel a part.


26.
View THE DOCTOR'S OPINION   ... friends, and about whom a whole chapter ...   BB The Doctor's Opinion, p.xxx  
There is the manic-depressive type, who is, perhaps, the least understood by his friends, and about whom a whole chapter could be written.


27.
View STEP TEN essay   ... friends and business associates, we find that ...   12&12 Step Ten, p.92  
Now that we're in A.A. and sober, and winning back the esteem of our friends and business associates, we find that we still need to exercise special vigilance.


28.
View THERE IS A SOLUTION chapter   ... friends and employers, warped lives of blameless ...   BB There Is A Solution, p.18  
It brings misunderstanding, fierce resentment, financial insecurity, disgusted friends and employers, warped lives of blameless children, sad wives and parents -- anyone can increase the list.


29.
View STEP TWO essay   ... friends, and families, the alcoholic who means ...   12&12 Step Two, p.32  
To clergymen, doctors, friends, and families, the alcoholic who means well and tries hard is a heartbreaking riddle.


30.
View THE FAMILY AFTERWARD chapter   ... friends and is sure to find new ...   BB The Family Afterward, p.132  
If he does not argue about religion, he will make new friends and is sure to find new avenues of usefulness and pleasure.


31.
View DOCTOR BOB'S NIGHTMARE story   ... friends, and my children that I would ...   BB Doctor Bob's Nightmare, p.177  
I used to promise my wife, my friends, and my children that I would drink no more -- promises which seldom kept me sober even through the day, though I was very sincere when I made them.


32.
View TO WIVES chapter   ... friends and others close to alcoholics.   BB To Wives (Note), p.121  
Though it is entirely separate from Alcoholics Anonymous, it uses the general principles of the A.A. program as a guide for husbands, wives, relatives, friends and others close to alcoholics.


33.
View STEP FOUR essay   ... friends, and society at large that many ...   12&12 Step Four, p.53  
But it is from our twisted relations with family, friends, and society at large that many of us have suffered the most.


34.
View TRADITION TWELVE essay   ... friends and the public, so that the ...   12&12 Tradition Twelve, p.186  
Consequently, many groups began to hold meetings which were open to interested friends and the public, so that the average citizen could see for himself just what A.A. was all about.


35.
View TRADITION TWO essay   ... friends are hurt and depressed.   12&12 Tradition Two, p.134  
The founder and his friends are hurt and depressed.


36.
View TRADITION TWO essay   ... friends are sometimes wiser and more humble ...   12&12 Tradition Two, p.133  
True, founders and their friends are sometimes wiser and more humble than this.


37.
View TO WIVES chapter   ... friends as one of those insanely trivial ...   BB To Wives, p.120  
In a weak moment he may take your dislike of his high-stepping friends as one of those insanely trivial excuses to drink.


38.
View TO WIVES chapter   ... friends at our homes, never knowing how ...   BB To Wives, p.105  
We seldom had friends at our homes, never knowing how or when the men of the house would appear.


39.
View TRADITION TWO essay   ... friends began to speak.   12&12 Tradition Two, p.137  
"Almost timidly, one of my friends began to speak.


40.
View STEP TWELVE essay   ... friends, business, or community we attract widespread ...   12&12 Step Twelve, p.124  
When by devoted service to family, friends, business, or community we attract widespread affection and are sometimes singled out for posts of greater responsibility and trust, we try to be humbly grateful and exert ourselves the more in a spirit of love and service.


41.
View TRADITION TWO essay   ... friends channel spirituality to newcomers, hire halls, ...   12&12 Tradition Two, p.133  
The founder and his friends channel spirituality to newcomers, hire halls, make hospital arrangements, and entreat their wives to brew gallons of coffee.


42.
View TRADITION ELEVEN essay   ... friends do this for us.   12&12 Tradition Eleven, p.181  
Obviously, A.A. had to be publicized somehow, so we resorted to the idea that it would be far better to let our friends do this for us.


43.
View STEP SIX essay   ... friends, doctors, and clergymen got no place ...   12&12 Step Six, p.63  
Change of scene, the best efforts of family, friends, doctors, and clergymen got no place with my alcoholism.


44.
View APPENDIX V, The Religious View on AA   ... friends, Dr. Harry Emerson Fosdick remarked:   BB Appendix V, The Religious View on A.A., p.572  
Speaking at a dinner given by John D. Rockefeller Jr. to introduce Alcoholics Anonymous to some of his friends, Dr. Harry Emerson Fosdick remarked:


45.
View DOCTOR BOB'S NIGHTMARE story   ... friends drink and knew I could not, ...   BB Doctor Bob's Nightmare, p.181  
I used to get terribly upset when I saw my friends drink and knew I could not, but I schooled myself to believe that though I once had the same privilege, I had abused it so frightfully that it was withdrawn.


46.
View WORKING WITH OTHERS chapter   ... friends drink liquor.   BB Working With Others, p.102  
Don't start to withdraw again just because your friends drink liquor.


47.
View FOREWORD TO SECOND EDITION   ... friends encourage us by saying that this ...   BB Foreword to Second Edition, p.xv  
Many of our friends encourage us by saying that this is but a beginning, only the augury of a much larger future ahead.


48.
View TO WIVES chapter   ... friends feel closer over a highball.   BB To Wives, p.110  
His friends feel closer over a highball.


49.
View FOREWORD TO SECOND EDITION   ... friends -- friends in medicine, religion, and the ...   BB Foreword to Second Edition, p.xx  
Another reason for the wide acceptance of A.A. was the ministration of friends -- friends in medicine, religion, and the press, together with innumerable others who became our able and persistent advocates.


50.
View A VISION FOR YOU chapter   ... friends galore.   BB A Vision For You, p.163  
So our fellow worker will soon have friends galore.


51.
View TRADITION TWO essay   ... friends gasp and exclaim, "This simply can't ...   12&12 Tradition Two, p.132  
When told that our Society has no president having authority to govern it, no treasurer who can compel the payment of any dues, no board of directors who can cast an erring member into outer darkness, when indeed no A.A. can give another a directive and enforce obedience, our friends gasp and exclaim, "This simply can't be. There must be an angle somewhere."


52.
View BILL'S STORY chapter   ... friends had dropped several million since ten ...   BB Bill's Story, p.4  
My friends had dropped several million since ten o'clock -- so what?


53.
View MORE ABOUT ALCOHOLISM chapter   ... friends had told me, how they prophesied ...   BB More About Alcoholism, p.41  
I now remembered what my alcoholic friends had told me, how they prophesied that if I had an alcoholic mind, the time and place would come -- I would drink again.


54.
View TO WIVES chapter   ... friends have counseled chucking the men and ...   BB To Wives, p.105  
Our friends have counseled chucking the men and we have done so with finality, only to be back in a little while hoping, always hoping.


55.
View TRADITION ELEVEN essay   ... friends have reported A.A. with an enthusiasm ...   12&12 Tradition Eleven, p.182  
Ever since, these friends have reported A.A. with an enthusiasm which the most ardent members would find hard to match.


56.
View TRADITION TWO essay   ... friends have served well, they may -- to ...   12&12 Tradition Two, p.134  
If the founder and his friends have served well, they may -- to their surprise -- be reinstated for a time.


57.
View TO WIVES chapter   ... friends have slipped away, his home is ...   BB To Wives, p.110  
His friends have slipped away, his home is a near-wreck and he cannot hold a position.


58.
View FOREWORD TO SECOND EDITION   ... friends in medicine, religion, and the press, ...   BB Foreword to Second Edition, p.xx  
Another reason for the wide acceptance of A.A. was the ministration of friends -- friends in medicine, religion, and the press, together with innumerable others who became our able and persistent advocates.


59.
View A VISION FOR YOU chapter   ... friends in your own community.   BB A Vision For You, p.152  
You are going to meet these new friends in your own community.


60.
View THE FAMILY AFTERWARD chapter   ... friends is a heavy smoker and coffee ...   BB The Family Afterward, p.135  
Here is a case in point: One of our friends is a heavy smoker and coffee drinker.


61.
View A VISION FOR YOU chapter   ... friends; it seemed they had known these ...   BB A Vision For You, p.161  
They knew they had a host of new friends; it seemed they had known these strangers always.


62.
View TO WIVES chapter   ... friends know the nature of his illness.   BB To Wives, p.115  
While you need not discuss your husband at length, you can quietly let your friends know the nature of his illness.


63.
View WORKING WITH OTHERS chapter   ... friends know they are not to change ...   BB Working With Others, p.102  
Let your friends know they are not to change their habits on your account.


64.
View TRADITION TWO essay   ... friends looked at me as their spokesman ...   12&12 Tradition Two, p.138  
Challengingly, my friends looked at me as their spokesman continued.


65.
View TRADITION TWO essay   ... friends may bask a little in glory.   12&12 Tradition Two, p.133  
Being on the human side, the founder and his friends may bask a little in glory.


66.
View WORKING WITH OTHERS chapter   ... friends must hide their bottles if we ...   BB Working With Others, pp.100-101  
People have said we must not go where liquor is served; we must not have it in our homes; we must shun friends who drink; we must avoid moving pictures which show drinking scenes; we must not go into bars; our friends must hide their bottles if we go to their houses; we mustn't think or be reminded about alcohol at all.


67.
View TRADITION TWO essay   ... friends mutter that this looks vague, nebulous, ...   12&12 Tradition Two, p.132  
The friends mutter that this looks vague, nebulous, pretty naive to them.


68.
View INTRODUCTION   ... friends of A.A. have asked if it ...   12&12 Introduction, p.14  
In recent years some members and friends of A.A. have asked if it would be wise to update the language, idioms, and historical references in the book to present a more contemporary image for the Fellowship.


69.
View APPENDIX VI, How to Get in Touch With A.A.   ... friends of A.A. members.   BB Appendix VI, How to Get in Touch With A.A., p.573  
This is a world clearing house for the Al-Anon Family Groups, composed largely of the wives, husbands and friends of A.A. members.


70.
View INTRODUCTION   ... friends of A.A. understand the principles of ...   12&12 Introduction, p.14  
We hope that the collective spiritual experience of the A.A. pioneers captured in these pages continues to help alcoholics and friends of A.A. understand the principles of our program.


71.
View STEP TWELVE essay   ... friends of alcoholics (in A.A. or still ...   12&12 Step Twelve (Note), p.118  
Not a part of A.A., this worldwide fellowship consists of spouses and other relatives or friends of alcoholics (in A.A. or still drinking).


72.
View APPENDIX II, Spiritual Experience   ... friends of the newcomer are aware of ...   BB Appendix II, Spiritual Experience, p.567  
Quite often friends of the newcomer are aware of the difference long before he is himself.


73.
View STEP FIVE essay   ... friends of the very character defects they ...   12&12 Step Five, p.56  
They will tell how they tried to carry the load alone; how much they suffered of irritability, anxiety, remorse, and depression; and how, unconsciously seeking relief, they would sometimes accuse even their best friends of the very character defects they themselves were trying to conceal.


74.
View TRADITION ELEVEN essay   ... friends of the writing profession disagreed with ...   12&12 Tradition Eleven, p.182  
These were plausible arguments, but happily our friends of the writing profession disagreed with them.


75.
View STEP TWELVE essay   ... friends often do?   12&12 Step Twelve, p.113  
Can we now, with the help of God as we understand Him, handle them as well and as bravely as our nonalcoholic friends often do?


76.
View STEP FIVE essay   ... friends or spiritual advisers the guidance they ...   12&12 Step Five, p.60  
It is worth noting that people of very high spiritual development almost always insist on checking with friends or spiritual advisers the guidance they feel they have received from God.


77.
View DOCTOR BOB'S NIGHTMARE story   ... friends our Fellowship will ever know.   BB Doctor Bob's Nightmare, p.171  
In this prodigy of service, he was well assisted by Sister Ignatia at St. Thomas Hospital in Akron, Ohio, one of the greatest friends our Fellowship will ever know.


78.
View STEP FIVE essay   ... friends probably know about anyhow.   12&12 Step Five, p.55  
Then, for good measure, we add dramatic descriptions of that part of our drinking behavior which our friends probably know about anyhow.


79.
View WORKING WITH OTHERS chapter   ... friends provided they are not alcoholic.   BB Working With Others, p.102  
Some of us still serve it to our friends provided they are not alcoholic.


80.
View APPENDIX I, The A.A. Tradition   ... friends recommend us.   BB Appendix I, The A.A. Tradition, p.565  
We feel it better to let our friends recommend us.


81.
View TRADITIONS LONG FORM   ... friends recommend us.   12&12 Tradition Eleven (Long), p.192  
We feel it better to let our friends recommend us.


82.
View A VISION FOR YOU chapter   ... friends said, "Put him in a private ...   BB A Vision For You, p.157  
But one of the friends said, "Put him in a private room. We'll be down."


83.
View THERE IS A SOLUTION chapter   ... friends sense that these drinkers are abnormal, ...   BB There Is A Solution, p.23  
In a vague way their families and friends sense that these drinkers are abnormal, but everybody hopefully awaits the day when the sufferer will rouse himself from his lethargy and assert his power of will.


84.
View A VISION FOR YOU chapter   ... friends spoke of their spiritual experience and ...   BB A Vision For You, p.157  
The two friends spoke of their spiritual experience and told him about the course of action they carried out.


85.
View BILL'S STORY chapter   ... friends terminated in a row and I ...   BB Bill's Story, p.3  
The remonstrances of my friends terminated in a row and I became a lone wolf.


86.
View STEP TWELVE essay   ... friends that he is inconsiderately away from ...   12&12 Step Twelve, p.118  
Her husband may become so wrapped up in A.A. and his new friends that he is inconsiderately away from home more than when he drank.


87.
View TO WIVES chapter   ... friends that he was sick, when as ...   BB To Wives, p.115  
Frequently, you have felt obliged to tell your husband's employer and his friends that he was sick, when as a matter of fact he was tight.


88.
View FOREWORD   ... friends that these pieces might arouse interest ...   12&12 Foreword, p.15  
Though the essays which follow were written mainly for members, it is thought by many of A.A.'s friends that these pieces might arouse interest and find application outside A.A. itself.


89.
View STEP TWELVE essay   ... friends, these so-called loners tell us they ...   12&12 Step Twelve, p.120  
Surrounded by so many A.A. friends, these so-called loners tell us they no longer feel alone.


90.
View WORKING WITH OTHERS chapter   ... friends -- this is an experience you must ...   BB Working With Others, p.89  
To watch people recover, to see them help others, to watch loneliness vanish, to see a fellowship grow up about you, to have a host of friends -- this is an experience you must not miss.


91.
View FOREWORD   ... friends, this is but the beginning of ...   12&12 Foreword, p.18  
In the view of its friends, this is but the beginning of its unique and valuable service.


92.
View BILL'S STORY chapter   ... friends thought a lunacy commission should be ...   BB Bill's Story, p.3  
Our friends thought a lunacy commission should be appointed.


93.
View STEP EIGHT essay   ... friends to a snapping point, and have ...   12&12 Step Eight, p.78  
We've repeatedly strained the patience of our best friends to a snapping point, and have brought out the very worst in those who didn't think much of us to begin with.


94.
View STEP FOUR essay   ... friends, to be a worker among workers, ...   12&12 Step Four, p.53  
We have not once sought to be one in a family, to be a friend among friends, to be a worker among workers, to be a useful member of society.


95.
View INTO ACTION chapter   ... friends to join us in morning meditation.   BB Into Action, p.87  
If circumstances warrant, we ask our wives or friends to join us in morning meditation.


96.
View BILL'S STORY chapter   ... friends to send me out looking over ...   BB Bill's Story, p.2  
I failed to persuade my broker friends to send me out looking over factories and managements, but my wife and I decided to go anyway.


97.
View DOCTOR BOB'S NIGHTMARE story   ... friends to smuggle me a quart, or ...   BB Doctor Bob's Nightmare, p.175  
After three years of this, I wound up in the local hospital where they attempted to help me, but I would get my friends to smuggle me a quart, or I would steal the alcohol about the building, so that I got rapidly worse.


98.
View FOREWORD TO SECOND EDITION   ... friends to which he invited A.A. members ...   BB Foreword to Second Edition, p.xviii  
In the spring of 1940, John D. Rockefeller, Jr. gave a dinner for many of his friends to which he invited A.A. members to tell their stories.


99.
View A VISION FOR YOU chapter   ... friends told him about their drinking experiences.   BB A Vision For You, p.157  
For an hour, the two friends told him about their drinking experiences.


100.
View THERE IS A SOLUTION chapter   ... friends usually find us even more unapproachable ...   BB There Is A Solution, p.18  
Strangely enough, wives, parents and intimate friends usually find us even more unapproachable than do the psychiatrist and the doctor.


101.
View DOCTOR BOB'S NIGHTMARE story   ... friends usually found me and I would ...   BB Doctor Bob's Nightmare, p.176  
But my friends usually found me and I would go home if they promised that I should not be scolded.


102.
View INTO ACTION chapter   ... friends we have hurt, we may feel ...   BB Into Action, p.76  
As we look over the list of business acquaintances and friends we have hurt, we may feel diffident about going to some of them on a spiritual basis.


103.
View STEP THREE essay   ... friends, we, too, are aware that there ...   12&12 Step Three, p.38  
Like our professional friends, we, too, are aware that there are wrong forms of dependence.


104.
View WORKING WITH OTHERS chapter   ... friends who drink; we must avoid moving ...   BB Working With Others, pp.100-101  
People have said we must not go where liquor is served; we must not have it in our homes; we must shun friends who drink; we must avoid moving pictures which show drinking scenes; we must not go into bars; our friends must hide their bottles if we go to their houses; we mustn't think or be reminded about alcohol at all.


105.
View MORE ABOUT ALCOHOLISM chapter   Friends who have reasoned with him after ...   BB More About Alcoholism, p.35  
Friends who have reasoned with him after a spree which has brought him to the point of divorce or bankruptcy are mystified when he walks directly into a saloon.


106.
View TRADITION TWO essay   ... friends, who were making as much money ...   12&12 Tradition Two, p.136  
I thought of a few of my alcoholic friends, who were making as much money as ever.


107.
View TO WIVES chapter   ... friends whose problem has been solved, as ...   BB To Wives, p.104  
Among us are wives, relatives and friends whose problem has been solved, as well as some who have not yet found a happy solution.


108.
View WORKING WITH OTHERS chapter   ... friends why alcohol disagrees with you.   BB Working With Others, p.102  
At a proper time and place explain to all your friends why alcohol disagrees with you.


109.
View FOREWORD TO SECOND EDITION   ... friends will be found further on in ...   BB Foreword to Second Edition, p.xx  
Some of the recommendations of A.A.'s early medical and religious friends will be found further on in this book.


110.
View TO WIVES chapter   ... friends will disappear with the growth of ...   BB To Wives, p.115  
Barriers which have sprung up between you and your friends will disappear with the growth of sympathetic understanding.


111.
View STEP FOUR essay   ... friends will need to cross-examine themselves ruthlessly ...   12&12 Step Four, pp.51-52  
But all alcoholics who have drunk themselves out of jobs, family, and friends will need to cross-examine themselves ruthlessly to determine how their own personality defects have thus demolished their security.


112.
View MORE ABOUT ALCOHOLISM chapter   ... friends with everyone.   BB More About Alcoholism, p.39  
He has so attractive a personality that he makes friends with everyone.


113.
View STEP TWELVE essay   ... friends, wives, husbands, even the world itself ...   12&12 Step Twelve, p.115  
We had failed to see that though adult in years we were still behaving childishly, trying to turn everybody -- friends, wives, husbands, even the world itself -- into protective parents.


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