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1.
View THERE IS A SOLUTION chapter   ... help.  BB There Is A Solution, p.25  
We were in a position where life was becoming impossible, and if we had passed into the region from which there is no return through human aid, we had but two alternatives: One was to go on to the bitter end, blotting out the consciousness of our intolerable situation as best we could; and the other, to accept spiritual help.


2.
View THERE IS A SOLUTION chapter   ... help.  BB There Is A Solution, p.27  
Some of our alcoholic readers may think they can do without spiritual help.


3.
View MORE ABOUT ALCOHOLISM chapter   ... help.  BB More About Alcoholism, p.43  
As to two of you men, whose stories I have heard, there is no doubt in my mind that you were 100% hopeless, apart from divine help.


4.
View HOW IT WORKS chapter   ... help.  BB How It Works, p.62  
We had to have God's help.


5.
View INTO ACTION chapter   ... help.  BB Into Action, p.84  
Then we resolutely turn our thoughts to someone we can help.


6.
View WORKING WITH OTHERS chapter   ... help.  BB Working With Others, p.90  
Don't deal with him when he is very drunk, unless he is ugly and the family needs your help.


7.
View WORKING WITH OTHERS chapter   ... help.  BB Working With Others, p.95  
Tell him that if he wants to get well you will do anything to help.


8.
View TO WIVES chapter   ... help.  BB To Wives, p.111  
They need your companionship and your help.


9.
View TO WIVES chapter   ... help.  BB To Wives, p.116  
At first, some of us did not believe we needed this help.


10.
View TO EMPLOYERS chapter   ... help.  BB To Employers (Note), p.150  
(*) See Appendix VI -- We shall be happy to hear from you if we can be of help.


11.
View A VISION FOR YOU chapter   ... help.  BB A Vision For You, p.162  
Many of us, former patients, go there to help.


12.
View APPENDIX III, The Medical View on A.A.   ... help.  BB Appendix III, The Medical View on A.A., p.569  
Dr. Harry M. Tiebout, psychiatrist: "As a psychiatrist, I have thought a great deal about the relationship of my specialty to A.A. and I have come to the conclusion that our particular function can very often lie in preparing the way for the patient to accept any sort of treatment or outside help.


13.
View STEP SEVEN essay   ... help.  12&12 Step Seven, p.75  
Refusing to place God first, we had deprived ourselves of His help.


14.
View STEP ELEVEN essay   ... help.  12&12 Step Eleven, p.98  
It is a step in the development of that kind of humility that makes it possible for us to receive God's help.


15.
View TRADITION TWO essay   ... help.  12&12 Tradition Two, p.133  
He feels a spiritual and ethical compulsion, because hundreds may be suffering within reach of his help.


16.
View INTRODUCTION   ... help alcoholics and friends of A.A. understand ...  12&12 Introduction, p.14  
We hope that the collective spiritual experience of the A.A. pioneers captured in these pages continues to help alcoholics and friends of A.A. understand the principles of our program.


17.
View FOREWORD TO SECOND EDITION   ... help an alcoholic, but he had succeeded ...  BB Foreword to Second Edition, p.xvi  
Prior to his journey to Akron, the broker had worked hard with many alcoholics on the theory that only an alcoholic could help an alcoholic, but he had succeeded only in keeping sober himself.


18.
View TRADITION EIGHT essay   ... help and be helped.  12&12 Tradition Eight, p.166  
Almost from the beginning, we have been positive that face-to-face work with the alcoholic who suffers could be based only on the desire to help and be helped.


19.
View STEP ELEVEN essay   ... help and direction.  12&12 Step Eleven, p.105  
All this should be very encouraging news for those who recoil from prayer because they don't believe in it, or because they feel themselves cut off from God's help and direction.


20.
View STEP NINE essay   ... help and guidance -- meanwhile resolving to do ...  12&12 Step Nine, p.86  
Do we lay the matter before our sponsor or spiritual adviser, earnestly asking God's help and guidance -- meanwhile resolving to do the right thing when it becomes clear, cost what it may?


21.
View TO EMPLOYERS chapter   ... help, and he tries to meet these ...  BB To Employers, p.137  
Nearly every modern employer feels a moral responsibility for the well-being of his help, and he tries to meet these responsibilities.


22.
View INTO ACTION chapter   ... help and the drastic step is indicated ...  BB Into Action, p.80  
If we have obtained permission, have consulted with others, asked God to help and the drastic step is indicated we must not shrink.


23.
View STEP TWO essay   ... help, but the help doesn't come.  12&12 Step Two, p.32  
Valiantly he tries to fight alcohol, imploring God's help, but the help doesn't come.


24.
View TRADITION EIGHT essay   ... help, but they could not be expected ...  12&12 Tradition Eight, p.169  
Volunteer committeemen and assistants could be of great help, but they could not be expected to carry this load day in and day out.


25.
View STEP TWO essay   ... help doesn't come.  12&12 Step Two, p.32  
Valiantly he tries to fight alcohol, imploring God's help, but the help doesn't come.


26.
View APPENDIX VII, Twelve Concepts (Short Form)   ... help ensure that various elements of A.A.'s ...  BB Appendix VII, Twelve Concepts (Short Form), p.574  
Written by co-founder Bill W. in 1962, the Twelve Concepts for World Service provide a group of related principles to help ensure that various elements of A.A.'s service structure remain responsive and responsible to those they serve.


27.
View FOREWORD TO FIRST EDITION   ... help everyone to better understand the alcoholic.  BB Foreword to First Edition, p.xiii  
We think this account of our experiences will help everyone to better understand the alcoholic.


28.
View FOREWORD   ... help fellow sufferers in recovery from that ...  12&12 Foreword, p.15  
Alcoholics Anonymous is a worldwide fellowship of more than one hundred thousand(*) alcoholic men and women who are banded together to solve their common problems and to help fellow sufferers in recovery from that age-old, baffling malady, alcoholism.


29.
View TRADITION THREE essay   ... help had been rebuffed, these words rang ...  12&12 Tradition Three, p.144  
After all his pleas for help had been rebuffed, these words rang in his fevered mind: "They have deserted me. I have been deserted by my own kind. This is the end ... nothing is left."


30.
View WORKING WITH OTHERS chapter   ... help him about getting a job, or ...  BB Working With Others, p.96  
If he is, you might try to help him about getting a job, or give him a little financial assistance.


31.
View TO EMPLOYERS chapter   ... help him, even if it be only ...  BB To Employers, p.141  
He wants to quit drinking and you want to help him, even if it be only a matter of good business.


32.
View TRADITION TWELVE essay   ... help him -- his doctor, his minister, and ...  12&12 Tradition Twelve, pp.185-186  
He also wanted to tell others who had tried to help him -- his doctor, his minister, and close friends.


33.
View WORKING WITH OTHERS chapter   ... help him see where he has failed ...  BB Working With Others, p.93  
Perhaps your story will help him see where he has failed to practice the very precepts he knows so well.


34.
View STEP SIX essay   ... help him to stay alive.  12&12 Step Six, p.64  
He did not design man to destroy himself by alcohol, but He did give man instincts to help him to stay alive.


35.
View APPENDIX V, The Religious View on AA   ... help himself except by helping others.  BB Appendix V, The Religious View on A.A., p.572  
The Episcopal magazine, The Living Church, observes editorially: "The basis of the technique of Alcoholics Anonymous is the truly Christian principle that a man cannot help himself except by helping others.


36.
View STEP TWELVE essay   ... help his brother alcoholic, the one who ...  12&12 Step Twelve, p.109  
Even the newest of newcomers finds undreamed rewards as he tries to help his brother alcoholic, the one who is even blinder than he.


37.
View STEP ELEVEN essay   ... help if we can drop all resistance ...  12&12 Step Eleven, p.99  
It will help if we can drop all resistance to what our friend says.


38.
View STEP FIVE essay   ... help if we were surely to know ...  12&12 Step Five, p.59  
We'd have to have outside help if we were surely to know and admit the truth about ourselves -- the help of God and another human being.


39.
View STEP TEN essay   ... help in quieting stormy emotions.  12&12 Step Ten, p.90  
A spot-check inventory taken in the midst of such disturbances can be of very great help in quieting stormy emotions.


40.
View MORE ABOUT ALCOHOLISM chapter   ... help in those strange mental blank spots.  BB More About Alcoholism, p.42  
I saw that will power and self-knowledge would not help in those strange mental blank spots.


41.
View TO WIVES chapter   ... help is noted on page 121.  BB To Wives (Note), p.104  
(*) Written in 1939, when there were few women in A.A., this chapter assumes that the alcoholic in the home is likely to be the husband. But many of the suggestions given here may be adapted to help the person who lives with a woman alcoholic -- whether she is still drinking or is recovering in A.A. A further source of help is noted on page 121.


42.
View THE FAMILY AFTERWARD chapter   ... help is the very thing which makes ...  BB The Family Afterward, p.124  
Showing others who suffer how we were given help is the very thing which makes life seem so worth while to us now.


43.
View HOW IT WORKS chapter   ... help it is too much for us.  BB How It Works, p.59  
Without help it is too much for us.


44.
View TO EMPLOYERS chapter   ... help it might be well to disregard ...  BB To Employers, p.139  
If you desire to help it might be well to disregard your own drinking, or lack of it.


45.
View THE DOCTOR'S OPINION   ... help me!"  BB The Doctor's Opinion, p.xxix  
Men have cried out to me in sincere and despairing appeal: "Doctor, I cannot go on like this! I have everything to live for! I must stop, but I cannot! You must help me!"


46.
View DOCTOR BOB'S NIGHTMARE story   ... help me.  BB Doctor Bob's Nightmare, p.179  
About this time a lady called up my wife one Saturday afternoon saying she wanted me to come over that evening to meet a friend of hers who might help me.


47.
View TRADITION TWO essay   ... help me.  12&12 Tradition Two, p.136  
It should be doing just as well now, and it would -- if only you'd help me.


48.
View TRADITION FIVE essay   ... help me and to help yourself?'  12&12 Tradition Five, p.152  
"Still dubious, he demanded, 'Do you really mean the only reason you are here is to try and help me and to help yourself?'


49.
View DOCTOR BOB'S NIGHTMARE story   ... help me, but I would get my ...  BB Doctor Bob's Nightmare, p.175  
After three years of this, I wound up in the local hospital where they attempted to help me, but I would get my friends to smuggle me a quart, or I would steal the alcohol about the building, so that I got rapidly worse.


50.
View THERE IS A SOLUTION chapter   ... help meet their needs.  BB There Is A Solution, p.20  
Our very lives, as ex-problem drinkers, depend upon our constant thought of others and how we may help meet their needs.


51.
View TO EMPLOYERS chapter   ... help my banker friend understand.  BB To Employers, p.138  
I wanted to throw up my hands in discouragement, for I saw that I had failed to help my banker friend understand.


52.
View STEP TWELVE essay   ... help of A.A.'s Twelve Steps we could ...  12&12 Step Twelve, p.121  
But as time passed we found that with the help of A.A.'s Twelve Steps we could lose those fears, no matter what our material prospects were.


53.
View STEP ELEVEN essay   ... help of all -- our search for God's ...  12&12 Step Eleven, p.103  
Just saying it over and over will often enable us to clear a channel choked up with anger, fear, frustration, or misunderstanding, and permit us to return to the surest help of all -- our search for God's will, not our own, in the moment of stress.


54.
View STEP FIVE essay   ... help of God and another human being.  12&12 Step Five, p.59  
We'd have to have outside help if we were surely to know and admit the truth about ourselves -- the help of God and another human being.


55.
View STEP TWELVE essay   ... help of God as we understand Him, ...  12&12 Step Twelve, p.113  
Can we now, with the help of God as we understand Him, handle them as well and as bravely as our nonalcoholic friends often do?


56.
View HOW IT WORKS chapter   ... help of Thy Power, Thy Love, and ...  BB How It Works, p.63  
Take away my difficulties, that victory over them may bear witness to those I would help of Thy Power, Thy Love, and Thy Way of life.


57.
View TRADITION TEN essay   ... help one another.  12&12 Tradition Ten, p.178  
At first, the society was composed entirely of alcoholics trying to help one another.


58.
View FOREWORD TO FOURTH EDITION   ... help other alcoholics.  BB Foreword to Fourth Edition, p.xxiv  
In any meeting, anywhere, A.A.'s share experience, strength, and hope with each other, in order to stay sober and help other alcoholics.


59.
View STEP TWELVE essay   ... help other alcoholics achieve sobriety?  12&12 Step Twelve, p.111  
Can we love the whole pattern of living as eagerly as we do the small segment of it we discover when we try to help other alcoholics achieve sobriety?


60.
View A VISION FOR YOU chapter   ... help other alcoholics if they would remain ...  BB A Vision For You, p.159  
Though they knew they must help other alcoholics if they would remain sober, that motive became secondary.


61.
View PREAMBLE   ... help other alcoholics to achieve sobriety.  Grapevine Preamble  
Our primary purpose is to stay sober and help other alcoholics to achieve sobriety.


62.
View WORKING WITH OTHERS chapter   ... help other alcoholics when he escapes his ...  BB Working With Others, p.94  
Make it plain he is under no obligation to you, that you hope only that he will try to help other alcoholics when he escapes his own difficulties.


63.
View TO WIVES chapter   ... help other drinkers.  BB To Wives, p.112  
Drinkers like to help other drinkers.


64.
View STEP ELEVEN essay   ... help other people as we have already ...  12&12 Step Eleven, p.102  
Our immediate temptation will be to ask for specific solutions to specific problems, and for the ability to help other people as we have already thought they should be helped.


65.
View THE FAMILY AFTERWARD chapter   ... help others.  BB The Family Afterward, p.132  
We have recovered, and have been given the power to help others.


66.
View WORKING WITH OTHERS chapter   ... help others and who will be glad ...  BB Working With Others, p.90  
You should be described to him as one of a fellowship who, as part of their own recovery, try to help others and who will be glad to talk to him if he cares to see you.


67.
View PREAMBLE   ... help others to recover from alcoholism.  Grapevine Preamble  
Alcoholics Anonymous is a fellowship of men and women who share their experience, strength and hope with each other that they may solve their common problem and help others to recover from alcoholism.


68.
View WORKING WITH OTHERS chapter   ... help others, to watch loneliness vanish, to ...  BB Working With Others, p.89  
To watch people recover, to see them help others, to watch loneliness vanish, to see a fellowship grow up about you, to have a host of friends -- this is an experience you must not miss.


69.
View APPENDIX III, The Medical View on A.A.   ... help others with similar problems ... In this ...  BB Appendix III, The Medical View on A.A., p.570  
They help others with similar problems ... In this atmosphere the alcoholic often overcomes his excessive concentration upon himself.


70.
View MORE ABOUT ALCOHOLISM chapter   ... help our readers determine, to their own ...  BB More About Alcoholism, p.34  
How then shall we help our readers determine, to their own satisfaction, whether they are one of us?


71.
View TRADITION FIVE essay   ... help problem drinkers as others seldom can.  12&12 Tradition Five, p.150  
Just as firmly bound by obligation are the members of Alcoholics Anonymous, who have demonstrated that they can help problem drinkers as others seldom can.


72.
View FOREWORD TO SECOND EDITION   ... help really deluged us.  BB Foreword to Second Edition, p.xviii  
Then Jack Alexander wrote a feature article in the Saturday Evening Post and placed such a compelling picture of A.A. before the general public that alcoholics in need of help really deluged us.


73.
View TO EMPLOYERS chapter   ... help serious drinkers who should have been ...  BB To Employers, p.147  
They often jeopardize their own positions by trying to help serious drinkers who should have been fired long ago, or else given an opportunity to get well.


74.
View TO EMPLOYERS chapter   ... help, some men will try to take ...  BB To Employers, p.141  
Seeing your attempt to understand and help, some men will try to take advantage of your kindness.


75.
View BILL'S STORY chapter   ... help some of them.  BB Bill's Story, p.14  
Perhaps I could help some of them.


76.
View TRADITION SEVEN essay   ... help, that was sure.  12&12 Tradition Seven, p.162  
We'd have to have some more full-time help, that was sure.


77.
View STEP TWELVE essay   ... help, the knowledge that at home or ...  12&12 Step Twelve, p.124  
Service, gladly rendered, obligations squarely met, troubles well accepted or solved with God's help, the knowledge that at home or in the world outside we are partners in a common effort, the well-understood fact that in God's sight all human beings are important, the proof that love freely given surely brings a full return, the certainty that we are no longer isolated and alone in self-constructed prisons, the surety that we need no longer be square pegs in round holes but can fit and belong in God's scheme of things -- these are the permanent and legitimate satisfactions of right living for which no amount of pomp and circumstance, no heap of material possessions, could possibly be substitutes.


78.
View THE FAMILY AFTERWARD chapter   ... help the man who is off on ...  BB The Family Afterward, p.130  
Nothing will help the man who is off on a spiritual tangent so much as the wife who adopts a sane spiritual program, making a better practical use of it.


79.
View STEP ELEVEN essay   ... help the next alcoholic who comes along.  12&12 Step Eleven, p.96  
We A.A.'s are active folk, enjoying the satisfactions of dealing with the realities of life, usually for the first time in our lives, and strenuously trying to help the next alcoholic who comes along.


80.
View TO WIVES chapter   ... help the person who lives with a ...  BB To Wives (Note), p.104  
(*) Written in 1939, when there were few women in A.A., this chapter assumes that the alcoholic in the home is likely to be the husband. But many of the suggestions given here may be adapted to help the person who lives with a woman alcoholic -- whether she is still drinking or is recovering in A.A. A further source of help is noted on page 121.


81.
View WORKING WITH OTHERS chapter   ... help the public to a better realization ...  BB Working With Others, p.103  
Some day we hope that Alcoholics Anonymous will help the public to a better realization of the gravity of the alcoholic problem, but we shall be of little use if our attitude is one of bitterness or hostility.


82.
View TO WIVES chapter   ... help the wife of another serious drinker.  BB To Wives, p.112  
Meanwhile you might try to help the wife of another serious drinker.


83.
View STEP TEN essay   ... help them.  12&12 Step Ten, p.93  
With those we dislike we can begin to practice justice and courtesy, perhaps going out of our way to understand and help them.


84.
View STEP FOUR essay   ... help them discover a chink in the ...  12&12 Step Four, p.46  
The problem is to help them discover a chink in the walls their ego has built, through which the light of reason can shine.


85.
View INTO ACTION chapter   ... help; they will be honored by our ...  BB Into Action, p.75  
Most people approached in this way will be glad to help; they will be honored by our confidence.


86.
View STEP SIX essay   ... help those we criticize; we are trying ...  12&12 Step Six, p.67  
Here we are not trying to help those we criticize; we are trying to proclaim our own righteousness.


87.
View STEP TEN essay   ... help to carry these lessons over into ...  12&12 Step Ten, p.94  
Here we need only recognize that we did act or think badly, try to visualize how we might have done better, and resolve with God's help to carry these lessons over into tomorrow, making, of course, any amends still neglected.


88.
View WE AGNOSTICS chapter   ... help to other people -- was not a ...  BB We Agnostics, p.52  
We were having trouble with personal relationships, we couldn't control our emotional natures, we were a prey to misery and depression, we couldn't make a living, we had a feeling of uselessness, we were full of fear, we were unhappy, we couldn't seem to be of real help to other people -- was not a basic solution of these bedevilments more important than whether we should see newsreels of lunar flight?


89.
View TO EMPLOYERS chapter   ... help to us for, as you see, ...  BB To Employers, p.148  
I don't see how you can be of any help to us for, as you see, we don't have any alcoholic problem."


90.
View STEP FOUR essay   ... help turn up the root causes.  12&12 Step Four, pp.52-53  
Questions like these, more of which will come to mind easily in each individual case, will help turn up the root causes.


91.
View INTO ACTION chapter   ... help us be willing.  BB Into Action, p.76  
If we still cling to something we will not let go, we ask God to help us be willing.


92.
View HOW IT WORKS chapter   ... help us show them the same tolerance, ...  BB How It Works, p.67  
We asked God to help us show them the same tolerance, pity, and patience that we would cheerfully grant a sick friend.


93.
View STEP TWELVE essay   ... help us to better jobs when we ...  12&12 Step Twelve, p.121  
We forgot that most alcoholics in A.A. have an earning power considerably above average; we forgot the immense goodwill of our brother A.A.'s who were only too eager to help us to better jobs when we deserved them; we forgot the actual or potential financial insecurity of every human being in the world.


94.
View HOW IT WORKS chapter   ... help us to live up to them.  BB How It Works, p.69  
We asked God to mold our ideals and help us to live up to them.


95.
View STEP ELEVEN essay   ... help us to meet an occasional emergency, ...  12&12 Step Eleven, p.96  
To be sure, we feel it is something that might help us to meet an occasional emergency, but at first many of us are apt to regard it as a somewhat mysterious skill of clergymen, from which we may hope to get a secondhand benefit.


96.
View STEP TWELVE essay   ... help, we calmly accepted our lot, then ...  12&12 Step Twelve, p.122  
When, with God's help, we calmly accepted our lot, then we found we could live at peace with ourselves and show others who still suffered the same fears that they could get over them, too.


97.
View DOCTOR BOB'S NIGHTMARE story   ... help, we know that we have an ...  BB Doctor Bob's Nightmare, p.181  
But if you really and truly want to quit drinking liquor for good and all, and sincerely feel that you must have some help, we know that we have an answer for you.


98.
View WORKING WITH OTHERS chapter   ... help when no one else can.  BB Working With Others, p.89  
You can help when no one else can.


99.
View TRADITION NINE essay   ... help would be broken.  12&12 Tradition Nine, p.175  
Our communications lines with those who need our help would be broken.


100.
View TO EMPLOYERS chapter   ... help you get over it, and if ...  BB To Employers, p.147  
The firm wants to help you get over it, and if you are interested, there is a way out.


101.
View TO EMPLOYERS chapter   ... help you plug up this sometimes serious ...  BB To Employers, p.148  
We hope our suggestions will help you plug up this sometimes serious leak.


102.
View TRADITION FIVE essay   ... help yourself?'  12&12 Tradition Five, p.152  
"Still dubious, he demanded, 'Do you really mean the only reason you are here is to try and help me and to help yourself?'


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