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Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions (12 & 12)
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1.
... help.
12&12 p.75,
Step Seven
Refusing to place
God first, we had
deprived
ourselves of His
help.
2.
... help.
12&12 p.98,
Step Eleven
It is a
step in the
development of that
kind
of
humility that makes it
possible for us to
receive
God's
help.
3.
... help.
12&12 p.133,
Tradition Two
4.
... help.
BB p.25,
There Is A Solution
We were in a
position where
life was
becoming impossible, and if we had
passed into the
region from
which there is no
return through
human aid, we had but
two alternatives: One was
to go on to the
bitter end,
blotting out the
consciousness of our
intolerable situation
as
best we could; and the other, to
accept spiritual help.
5.
... help.
BB p.27,
There Is A Solution
Some of our
alcoholic readers may
think they can do
without
spiritual help.
6.
... help.
BB p.43,
More About Alcoholism
As to
two of you
men, whose
stories I have
heard, there
is no
doubt in my
mind that
you were
100%
hopeless,
apart from
divine help.
7.
... help.
BB p.62,
How It Works
We had to have
God's
help.
8.
... help.
BB p.84,
Into Action
Then we
resolutely turn
our
thoughts to someone we can
help.
9.
... help.
BB p.90,
Working With Others
Don't
deal with him when he is very
drunk,
unless he is
ugly and the
family needs your
help.
10.
... help.
BB p.95,
Working With Others
Tell him that if he
wants to get well you will do
anything to
help.
11.
... help.
BB p.111,
To Wives
They
need your
companionship and your
help.
12.
... help.
BB p.116,
To Wives
At
first, some of us did not
believe we
needed this
help.
13.
... help.
BB p.150,
To Employers (Note)
(*) See
Appendix VI -- We
shall be
happy to
hear from
you if we can be of
help.
14.
... help.
BB p.162,
A Vision For You
Many of us,
former patients, go there to
help.
15.
... help.
BB p.569(571),
Appendix III, The Medical View on A.A.
16.
... help an
alcoholic, but he had succeeded ...
BB xvi,
Foreword to Second Edition
Prior to his
journey to
Akron, the
broker had
worked hard with many
alcoholics on the
theory
that only an
alcoholic could
help an
alcoholic, but he had
succeeded only in
keeping sober himself.
17.
... help and
be helped.
12&12 p.166,
Tradition Eight
Almost from the
beginning, we have been
positive that
face-to-
face work with the
alcoholic who
suffers
could be
based only on the
desire to
help and be
helped.
18.
... help and
direction.
12&12 p.105,
Step Eleven
All this should be very
encouraging news for those who
recoil from
prayer because they don't
believe in it, or because they
feel themselves
cut off from
God's
help and
direction.
19.
... help and
guidance -- meanwhile resolving to do ...
12&12 p.86,
Step Nine
20.
... help, and
he tries to meet these ...
BB p.137,
To Employers
21.
... help and
the drastic step is indicated ...
BB p.80,
Into Action
If we have
obtained permission, have
consulted with others,
asked God to
help and the
drastic step is
indicated we
must not
shrink.
22.
... help, but
the help doesn't come.
12&12 p.32,
Step Two
Valiantly he
tries to
fight alcohol,
imploring God's
help, but the
help doesn't
come.
23.
... help, but
they could not be expected ...
12&12 p.168,
Tradition Eight
Volunteer committeemen and
assistants could be of
great help, but they could not
be
expected to
carry this
load day in and
day out.
24.
... help doesn't
come.
12&12 p.32,
Step Two
Valiantly he
tries to
fight alcohol,
imploring God's
help, but the
help doesn't
come.
25.
... help ensure
that various elements of A.A.'s ...
BB p.574,
Appendix VII, Twelve Concepts (Short Form)
26.
... help everyone
to better understand the alcoholic.
BB xiii,
Foreword to First Edition
27.
... help fellow
sufferers in recovery from that ...
12&12 p.15,
Foreword
28.
... help had
been rebuffed, these words rang ...
12&12 p.144,
Tradition Three
After all his
pleas for
help
had been
rebuffed, these
words rang in his
fevered mind: "They have
deserted me.
29.
... help him
about getting a job, or ...
BB p.96,
Working With Others
If he is, you might
try to
help
him about
getting a
job, or
give him a
little financial assistance.
30.
... help him,
even if it be only ...
BB p.141,
To Employers
He
wants to
quit drinking and you
want to
help him, even if it be only a
matter of
good business.
31.
... help him
-- his doctor, his minister, and ...
12&12 p.186,
Tradition Twelve
He also
wanted to tell others who had
tried to
help him -- his
doctor, his
minister, and
close friends.
32.
... help him
see where he has failed ...
BB p.93,
Working With Others
Perhaps your
story will
help
him see where he has
failed to
practice the very
precepts he
knows so well.
33.
... help him
to stay alive.
12&12 p.64,
Step Six
He did not
design man to
destroy himself by
alcohol,
but He did
give man instincts to
help him to
stay alive.
34.
... help himself
except by helping others.
BB p.572(574),
Appendix V, The Religious View on A.A.
35.
... help his
brother alcoholic, the one who ...
12&12 p.109,
Step Twelve
Even the
newest of
newcomers finds undreamed rewards as he
tries to
help his
brother alcoholic, the
one who is even
blinder than he.
36.
... help if
we can drop all resistance ...
12&12 p.100,
Step Eleven
It will
help if we can
drop
all
resistance to what our
friend says.
37.
... help if
we were surely to know ...
12&12 p.59,
Step Five
We'd have to have
outside help if we were
surely to
know and
admit the
truth about ourselves -- the
help of
God and another
human being.
38.
... help in
quieting stormy emotions.
12&12 p.90,
Step Ten
39.
... help in
those strange mental blank spots.
BB p.42,
More About Alcoholism
I saw that will
power and
self-
knowledge would not
help in those
strange mental blank spots.
40.
... help is
noted on page 121.
BB p.104,
To Wives (Note)
41.
... help is
the very thing which makes ...
BB p.124,
The Family Afterward
Showing others who
suffer
how we were
given help is the
very thing which makes
life seem so
worth while to us now.
42.
... help it
is too much for us.
BB p.59,
How It Works
Without help it is too much for us.
43.
... help it
might be well to disregard ...
BB p.139,
To Employers
If you
desire to
help it
might be well to
disregard your
own drinking, or
lack of it.
44.
... help me.
12&12 p.136,
Tradition Two
It should be doing just as well now, and it would -- if only you'd help me.
45.
... help me!"
BB xxix(xxvii),
The Doctor's Opinion
46.
... help me
and to help yourself?'
12&12 p.152,
Tradition Five
"Still
dubious, he
demanded, 'Do you really
mean
the only
reason you are here is to
try and
help me and to
help yourself?'
47.
... help meet
their needs.
BB p.20,
There Is A Solution
Our very
lives, as
ex-
problem drinkers,
depend upon our
constant thought of others and how we may
help meet their
needs.
48.
... help my
banker friend understand.
BB p.138,
To Employers
49.
... help of
A.A.'s Twelve Steps we could ...
12&12 p.121,
Step Twelve
But as
time passed we
found that with the
help of
A.A.'s
Twelve Steps we could
lose those
fears, no
matter what our
material prospects were.
50.
... help of
all -- our search for God's ...
12&12 p.103,
Step Eleven
Just saying it over and over will often
enable us
to
clear a
channel choked up with
anger,
fear,
frustration, or
misunderstanding, and
permit us to
return to the
surest help of all -- our
search for
God's will, not our
own, in the
moment of
stress.
51.
... help of
God and another human being.
12&12 p.59,
Step Five
We'd have to have
outside help if we were
surely to
know and
admit the
truth about ourselves -- the
help of
God and another
human being.
52.
... help of
God as we understand Him, ...
12&12 p.113,
Step Twelve
Can we now, with the
help of
God as we
understand Him,
handle them as well and as
bravely as our
nonalcoholic friends
often do?
53.
... help of
Thy Power, Thy Love, and ...
BB p.63,
How It Works
Take away my
difficulties, that
victory over them may
bear witness to those I would
help
of
Thy Power,
Thy Love, and
Thy Way of
life.
54.
... help one
another.
12&12 p.178,
Tradition Ten
55.
... help other
alcoholics.
BB xxiv,
Foreword to Fourth Edition
In any
meeting, anywhere,
A.A.'s
share experience,
strength,
and
hope with each other, in
order to
stay sober and
help other
alcoholics.
56.
... help other
alcoholics achieve sobriety?
12&12 p.111,
Step Twelve
57.
... help other
alcoholics if they would remain ...
BB p.159,
A Vision For You
Though they
knew they
must
help other
alcoholics if
they would
remain sober,
that
motive became secondary.
58.
... help other
alcoholics to achieve sobriety.
Grapevine,
Preamble
59.
... help other
alcoholics when he escapes his ...
BB p.94,
Working With Others
Make it
plain he is under no
obligation to you, that you
hope only that he will
try to
help other
alcoholics
when he
escapes his
own difficulties.
60.
... help other
drinkers.
BB p.112,
To Wives
Drinkers like to
help
other
drinkers.
61.
... help other
people as we have already ...
12&12 p.102,
Step Eleven
Our
immediate temptation will be to
ask
for
specific solutions to
specific problems, and for the
ability to
help other people
as we have already
thought they should be
helped.
62.
... help others.
BB p.132,
The Family Afterward
We have
recovered, and have been
given the
power to
help others.
63.
... help others
and who will be glad ...
BB p.90,
Working With Others
You should be
described to him as one of a
fellowship who, as
part of
their
own recovery,
try to
help others and who will be
glad to
talk to him if he
cares to see you.
64.
... help others
to recover from alcoholism.
Grapevine,
Preamble
Alcoholics Anonymous is a
fellowship of
men and
women who
share their
experience,
strength
and
hope with each other that they may
solve their
common problem and
help others to
recover from
alcoholism.
65.
... help others,
to watch loneliness vanish, to ...
BB p.89,
Working With Others
To
watch people
recover,
to see them
help others, to
watch loneliness vanish, to see a
fellowship grow up about
you, to have a
host of
friends -- this is an
experience you
must not
miss.
66.
... help others
with similar problems ... In this ...
BB p.570(572),
Appendix III, The Medical View on A.A.
They
help others with
similar problems ... In
this
atmosphere the
alcoholic often
overcomes his
excessive
concentration upon himself.
67.
... help our
readers determine, to their own ...
BB p.34,
More About Alcoholism
How then shall we
help our
readers determine, to
their
own satisfaction,
whether they are one of us?
68.
... help problem
drinkers as others seldom can.
12&12 p.150,
Tradition Five
69.
... help really
deluged us.
BB xviii,
Foreword to Second Edition
70.
... help serious
drinkers who should have been ...
BB p.147,
To Employers
They often
jeopardize their
own positions by
trying to
help serious drinkers who
should have been
fired long
ago, or else
given an
opportunity to get well.
71.
... help, some
men will try to take ...
BB p.141,
To Employers
Seeing your
attempt to
understand and
help, some
men will
try to take
advantage of your
kindness.
72.
... help some
of them.
BB p.14,
Bill's Story
Perhaps I could help some of them.
73.
... help, that
was sure.
12&12 p.162,
Tradition Seven
We'd have to have some more
full-
time help, that was
sure.
74.
... help, the
knowledge that at home or ...
12&12 p.124,
Step Twelve
Service,
gladly rendered,
obligations
squarely met,
troubles well
accepted or
solved with
God's
help, the
knowledge that at
home or in the
world outside we are
partners in
a
common effort, the
well-
understood fact
that in
God's
sight all
human beings are
important, the
proof that
love freely given surely brings a
full return, the
certainty that we are no
longer isolated and alone
in
self-
constructed prisons, the
surety that we
need no
longer be
square pegs in
round holes but can
fit and
belong in
God's
scheme of things -- these
are the
permanent and
legitimate satisfactions of
right
living for which no
amount
of
pomp and
circumstance, no
heap of
material possessions, could
possibly be
substitutes.
75.
... help the
man who is off on ...
BB p.130,
The Family Afterward
76.
... help the
next alcoholic who comes along.
12&12 p.96,
Step Eleven
77.
... help the
person who lives with a ...
BB p.104,
To Wives (Note)
But many of the
suggestions given here may be
adapted to
help the
person who
lives with a
woman alcoholic -- whether she is still
drinking or is
recovering in
A.A.
78.
... help the
public to a better realization ...
BB p.103,
Working With Others
79.
... help the
wife of another serious drinker.
BB p.112,
To Wives
Meanwhile you might
try to
help the
wife of another
serious drinker.
80.
... help them.
12&12 p.93,
Step Ten
With those we
dislike we can
begin to
practice justice and
courtesy,
perhaps
going out of our way to
understand and
help them.
81.
... help them
discover a chink in the ...
12&12 p.46,
Step Four
The
problem is to
help them
discover a
chink in the
walls their
ego has
built, through which the
light
of
reason can
shine.
82.
... help; they
will be honored by our ...
BB p.75,
Into Action
Most people
approached in this way will be
glad to
help; they will be
honored by our
confidence.
83.
... help those
we criticize; we are trying ...
12&12 p.67,
Step Six
Here we are not
trying to
help those we
criticize; we are
trying to
proclaim our
own righteousness.
84.
... help to
carry these lessons over into ...
12&12 p.94,
Step Ten
Here we
need only
recognize that we did
act or
think badly,
try to
visualize how we might
have done
better, and
resolve with
God's
help to
carry these
lessons over into
tomorrow,
making, of
course, any
amends still
neglected.
85.
... help to
other people -- was not a ...
BB p.52,
We Agnostics
We were having
trouble with
personal relationships, we couldn't
control our
emotional natures, we were a
prey to
misery and
depression, we
couldn't make a
living, we had a
feeling of
uselessness,
we were
full of
fear, we were
unhappy, we couldn't
seem
to be of
real help to other
people -- was not a
basic solution of these
bedevilments more
important than whether we should see
newsreels of
lunar flight?
86.
... help to
us for, as you see, ...
BB p.148,
To Employers
I don't see how you can be of any
help to us for, as
you see, we don't have any
alcoholic problem."
87.
... help turn
up the root causes.
12&12 p.53,
Step Four
Questions like these, more of which will
come to
mind easily in each
individual
case, will
help turn up the
root causes.
88.
... help us
be willing.
BB p.76,
Into Action
If we still
cling to something we will not let go,
we
ask God to
help us be
willing.
89.
... help us
show them the same tolerance, ...
BB p.67,
How It Works
We
asked God to
help us
show them the same
tolerance,
pity, and
patience that we would
cheerfully grant a
sick friend.
90.
... help us
to better jobs when we ...
12&12 p.121,
Step Twelve
91.
... help us
to live up to them.
BB p.69,
How It Works
We
asked God to
mold our
ideals and
help us to
live up to them.
92.
... help us
to meet an occasional emergency, ...
12&12 p.96,
Step Eleven
To be
sure, we
feel it is
something that might
help us to
meet an
occasional emergency, but at
first
many of us are
apt to
regard
it as a somewhat
mysterious skill of
clergymen, from
which we may
hope to get a
secondhand benefit.
93.
... help, we
calmly accepted our lot, then ...
12&12 p.122,
Step Twelve
When, with
God's
help, we
calmly accepted our
lot, then we
found we could
live at
peace with ourselves and
show others who still
suffered the same
fears that
they could get over them, too.
94.
... help when
no one else can.
BB p.89,
Working With Others
You can help when no one else can.
95.
... help would
be broken.
12&12 p.175,
Tradition Nine
Our
communications lines with those who
need our
help would be
broken.
96.
... help you
get over it, and if ...
BB p.147,
To Employers
The
firm wants to
help you get over it, and if you are
interested, there is a way out.
97.
... help you
plug up this sometimes serious ...
BB p.148,
To Employers
We
hope our
suggestions
will
help you
plug up this
sometimes
serious leak.
98.
... help yourself?'
12&12 p.152,
Tradition Five
"Still
dubious, he
demanded, 'Do you really
mean
the only
reason you are here is to
try and
help me and to
help yourself?'
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