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1.
View FOREWORD TO SECOND EDITION   ... himself.  BB Foreword to Second Edition, p.xvi  
Prior to his journey to Akron, the broker had worked hard with many alcoholics on the theory that only an alcoholic could help an alcoholic, but he had succeeded only in keeping sober himself.


2.
View BILL'S STORY chapter   ... himself.  BB Bill's Story, p.9  
He wasn't himself.


3.
View BILL'S STORY chapter   ... himself.  BB Bill's Story, p.11  
But my friend sat before me, and he made the point-blank declaration that God had done for him what he could not do for himself.


4.
View MORE ABOUT ALCOHOLISM chapter   ... himself.  BB More About Alcoholism, p.40  
He was interested and conceded that he had some of the symptoms, but he was a long way from admitting that he could do nothing about it himself.


5.
View WE AGNOSTICS chapter   ... himself.  BB We Agnostics, p.48  
The reader may still ask why he should believe in a Power greater than himself.


6.
View WE AGNOSTICS chapter   ... himself.  BB We Agnostics, p.50  
In our personal stories you will find a wide variation in the way each teller approaches and conceives of the Power which is greater than himself.


7.
View WE AGNOSTICS chapter   ... himself.  BB We Agnostics, p.50  
They are questions for each individual to settle for himself.


8.
View WE AGNOSTICS chapter   ... himself.  BB We Agnostics, p.50  
Every one of them has gained access to, and believes in, a Power greater than himself.


9.
View WE AGNOSTICS chapter   ... himself.  BB We Agnostics, p.55  
For faith in a Power greater than ourselves, and miraculous demonstrations of that power in human lives, are facts as old as man himself.


10.
View INTO ACTION chapter   ... himself.  BB Into Action, p.73  
As fast as he can, he pushes these memories far inside himself.


11.
View INTO ACTION chapter   ... himself.  BB Into Action, p.81  
The husband begins to feel lonely, sorry for himself.


12.
View WORKING WITH OTHERS chapter   ... himself.  BB Working With Others, p.91  
Tell him enough about your drinking habits, symptoms, and experiences to encourage him to speak of himself.


13.
View WORKING WITH OTHERS chapter   ... himself.  BB Working With Others, p.92  
But insist that if he is severely afflicted, there may be little chance he can recover by himself.


14.
View WORKING WITH OTHERS chapter   ... himself.  BB Working With Others, p.96  
If you leave such a person alone, he may soon become convinced that he cannot recover by himself.


15.
View TO WIVES chapter   ... himself.  BB To Wives, p.111  
Try to have him bring up the subject himself.


16.
View TO WIVES chapter   ... himself.  BB To Wives, p.112  
If this kind of approach does not catch your husband's interest, it may be best to drop the subject, but after a friendly talk your husband will usually revive the topic himself.


17.
View TO WIVES chapter   ... himself.  BB To Wives, p.113  
Let him decide for himself.


18.
View THE FAMILY AFTERWARD chapter   ... himself.  BB The Family Afterward, p.126  
But dad doesn't give freely of himself.


19.
View THE FAMILY AFTERWARD chapter   ... himself.  BB The Family Afterward, p.129  
For a time he may try to hug the new treasure to himself.


20.
View THE FAMILY AFTERWARD chapter   ... himself.  BB The Family Afterward, p.131  
Father, coming suddenly to life again, often begins to assert himself.


21.
View TO EMPLOYERS chapter   ... himself.  BB To Employers, p.144  
The man must decide for himself.


22.
View A VISION FOR YOU chapter   ... himself.  BB A Vision For You, p.152  
He fools himself.


23.
View A VISION FOR YOU chapter   ... himself.  BB A Vision For You, p.158  
But he had found God -- and in finding God had found himself.


24.
View APPENDIX II, Spiritual Experience   ... himself.  BB Appendix II, Spiritual Experience, p.567  
Quite often friends of the newcomer are aware of the difference long before he is himself.


25.
View APPENDIX III, The Medical View on A.A.   ... himself.  BB Appendix III, The Medical View on A.A., p.570  
They help others with similar problems ... In this atmosphere the alcoholic often overcomes his excessive concentration upon himself.


26.
View STEP ONE essay   ... himself.  12&12 Step One, p.24  
No, the average alcoholic, self-centered in the extreme, doesn't care for this prospect -- unless he has to do these things in order to stay alive himself.


27.
View STEP TWO essay   ... himself?  12&12 Step Two, p.25  
Must he renounce all this to save himself?


28.
View STEP TWO essay   ... Himself.  12&12 Step Two, p.31  
So it's not strange that lots of us have had our day at defying God Himself.


29.
View STEP TWO essay   ... himself.  12&12 Step Two, p.33  
Yet no alcoholic, soberly analyzing his destructive behavior, whether the destruction fell on the dining-room furniture or his own moral fiber, can claim "soundness of mind" for himself.


30.
View STEP THREE essay   ... himself.  12&12 Step Three, p.40  
When he acquires willingness, he is the only one who can make the decision to exert himself.


31.
View STEP FOUR essay   ... himself.  12&12 Step Four, p.49  
Both his pride and his fear beat him back every time he tries to look within himself.


32.
View STEP ELEVEN essay   ... himself.  12&12 Step Eleven, p.101  
Next came the expression of an aspiration and a hope for himself.


33.
View STEP TWELVE essay   ... himself.  12&12 Step Twelve, p.107  
In a very real sense he has been transformed, because he has laid hold of a source of strength which, in one way or another, he had hitherto denied himself.


34.
View STEP TWELVE essay   ... Himself.  12&12 Step Twelve, p.116  
When we developed still more, we discovered the best possible source of emotional stability to be God Himself.


35.
View TRADITION FIVE essay   ... himself.  12&12 Tradition Five, p.152  
He interrupted to scoff at this and asserted he'd fix his wife, his partner, and his alcoholism by himself.


36.
View THE FAMILY AFTERWARD chapter   ... himself, a spiritual life which does not ...  BB The Family Afterward, p.129  
He will perceive that his spiritual growth is lopsided, that for an average man like himself, a spiritual life which does not include his family obligations may not be so perfect after all.


37.
View HOW IT WORKS chapter   ... himself about values.  BB How It Works, p.64  
If the owner of the business is to be successful, he cannot fool himself about values.


38.
View APPENDIX II, Spiritual Experience   ... himself alone.  BB Appendix II, Spiritual Experience, p.567  
He finally realizes that he has undergone a profound alteration in his reaction to life; that such a change could hardly have been brought about by himself alone.


39.
View MORE ABOUT ALCOHOLISM chapter   ... himself an alcoholic, much less accept a ...  BB More About Alcoholism, p.39  
Fred would not believe himself an alcoholic, much less accept a spiritual remedy for his problem.


40.
View THE FAMILY AFTERWARD chapter   ... himself and feel he has spiritual justification ...  BB The Family Afterward, p.129  
Instead of treating the family as he should, he may retreat further into himself and feel he has spiritual justification for so doing.


41.
View STEP THREE essay   ... himself, and in the light of his ...  12&12 Step Three, p.40  
All by himself, and in the light of his own circumstances, he needs to develop the quality of willingness.


42.
View THE FAMILY AFTERWARD chapter   ... himself and it will affect others favorably, ...  BB The Family Afterward, p.125  
A man may criticize or laugh at himself and it will affect others favorably, but criticism or ridicule coming from another often produces the contrary effect.


43.
View WORKING WITH OTHERS chapter   ... himself and that he live by spiritual ...  BB Working With Others, p.93  
The main thing is that he be willing to believe in a Power greater than himself and that he live by spiritual principles.


44.
View TRADITION FOUR essay   ... himself -- and that is the very acme ...  12&12 Tradition Four, p.149  
Even the chief architect, standing in the ruins of his dream, could laugh at himself -- and that is the very acme of humility.


45.
View THERE IS A SOLUTION chapter   ... himself, and then pulls the structure down ...  BB There Is A Solution, p.21  
He uses his gifts to build up a bright outlook for his family and himself, and then pulls the structure down on his head by a senseless series of sprees.


46.
View STEP SEVEN essay   ... himself and with his fellows.  12&12 Step Seven, p.76  
Each of us would like to live at peace with himself and with his fellows.


47.
View MORE ABOUT ALCOHOLISM chapter   ... himself as an alcoholic.  BB More About Alcoholism, p.36  
He had much knowledge about himself as an alcoholic.


48.
View THERE IS A SOLUTION chapter   ... himself beyond human aid, and unless locked ...  BB There Is A Solution, p.24  
When this sort of thinking is fully established in an individual with alcoholic tendencies, he has probably placed himself beyond human aid, and unless locked up, may die or go permanently insane.


49.
View STEP FOUR essay   ... himself both family and friends.  12&12 Step Four, p.43  
Going to the extreme, he can become a miser, or even a recluse who denies himself both family and friends.


50.
View STEP SIX essay   ... himself by alcohol, but He did give ...  12&12 Step Six, p.64  
He did not design man to destroy himself by alcohol, but He did give man instincts to help him to stay alive.


51.
View THERE IS A SOLUTION chapter   ... himself, can generally win the entire confidence ...  BB There Is A Solution, p.18  
But the ex-problem drinker who has found this solution, who is properly armed with facts about himself, can generally win the entire confidence of another alcoholic in a few hours.


52.
View STEP TWELVE essay   ... himself did to damage her and his ...  12&12 Step Twelve, p.119  
The alcoholic, realizing what his wife has endured, and now fully understanding how much he himself did to damage her and his children, nearly always takes up his marriage responsibilities with a willingness to repair what he can and to accept what he can't.


53.
View WORKING WITH OTHERS chapter   ... himself, do not wear out your welcome.  BB Working With Others, p.95  
Unless your friend wants to talk further about himself, do not wear out your welcome.


54.
View MORE ABOUT ALCOHOLISM chapter   ... himself drunk half a dozen times in ...  BB More About Alcoholism, p.35  
To his consternation, he found himself drunk half a dozen times in rapid succession.


55.
View THE DOCTOR'S OPINION   ... himself easily able to control his desire ...  BB The Doctor's Opinion, p.xxix  
On the other hand -- and strange as this may seem to those who do not understand -- once a psychic change has occurred, the very same person who seemed doomed, who had so many problems he despaired of ever solving them, suddenly finds himself easily able to control his desire for alcohol, the only effort necessary being that required to follow a few simple rules.


56.
View APPENDIX V, The Religious View on AA   ... himself except by helping others.  BB Appendix V, The Religious View on A.A., p.572  
The Episcopal magazine, The Living Church, observes editorially: "The basis of the technique of Alcoholics Anonymous is the truly Christian principle that a man cannot help himself except by helping others.


57.
View MORE ABOUT ALCOHOLISM chapter   ... himself for a few years in spite ...  BB More About Alcoholism, p.37  
He enjoys himself for a few years in spite of friendly warnings.


58.
View TRADITION THREE essay   ... himself for once; maybe he'll learn a ...  12&12 Tradition Three, p.144  
"Leave him alone! Let him try it by himself for once; maybe he'll learn a lesson!"


59.
View THERE IS A SOLUTION chapter   ... himself from his lethargy and assert his ...  BB There Is A Solution, p.23  
In a vague way their families and friends sense that these drinkers are abnormal, but everybody hopefully awaits the day when the sufferer will rouse himself from his lethargy and assert his power of will.


60.
View INTO ACTION chapter   ... himself from the alcoholic pit.  BB Into Action, p.79  
Therefore, we are not to be the hasty and foolish martyr who would needlessly sacrifice others to save himself from the alcoholic pit.


61.
View STEP ONE essay   ... himself had become our best advocate.  12&12 Step One, p.24  
John Barleycorn himself had become our best advocate.


62.
View TO WIVES chapter   ... himself, have recovered.  BB To Wives, p.113  
He knows that thousands of men, much like himself, have recovered.


63.
View MORE ABOUT ALCOHOLISM chapter   ... himself he came to the hospital to ...  BB More About Alcoholism, p.39  
Far from admitting he was an alcoholic, he told himself he came to the hospital to rest his nerves.


64.
View THE FAMILY AFTERWARD chapter   ... himself he could not, for his drinking ...  BB The Family Afterward, p.130  
Even when he wanted to assert himself he could not, for his drinking placed him constantly in the wrong.


65.
View WORKING WITH OTHERS chapter   ... himself he may succeed for a time, ...  BB Working With Others, p.101  
If the alcoholic tries to shield himself he may succeed for a time, but he usually winds up with a bigger explosion then ever.


66.
View FOREWORD TO SECOND EDITION   ... himself he must carry his message to ...  BB Foreword to Second Edition, p.xvi  
He suddenly realized that in order to save himself he must carry his message to another alcoholic.


67.
View THE DOCTOR'S OPINION   ... himself, he must sometimes feel his own ...  BB The Doctor's Opinion, p.xxix  
Faced with this problem, if a doctor is honest with himself, he must sometimes feel his own inadequacy.


68.
View STEP ONE essay   ... himself, his sobriety -- if any -- will be ...  12&12 Step One, p.21  
Until he so humbles himself, his sobriety -- if any -- will be precarious.


69.
View A VISION FOR YOU chapter   ... himself in a strange place, discredited and ...  BB A Vision For You, p.154  
Bitterly discouraged, he found himself in a strange place, discredited and almost broke.


70.
View TO EMPLOYERS chapter   ... himself in his woodshed.  BB To Employers, p.137  
Four days before he had hanged himself in his woodshed.


71.
View APPENDIX III, The Medical View on A.A.   ... himself in his work with other alcoholics, ...  BB Appendix III, The Medical View on A.A., p.570  
Learning to depend upon a higher power and absorb himself in his work with other alcoholics, he remains sober day by day.


72.
View APPENDIX I, The A.A. Tradition   ... Himself in our group conscience.  BB Appendix I, The A.A. Tradition, p.563  
2. For our group purpose there is but one ultimate authority -- a loving God as He may express Himself in our group conscience.


73.
View TRADITIONS LONG FORM   ... Himself in our group conscience.  12&12 Tradition Two (Long), p.189  
Two -- For our group purpose there is but one ultimate authority -- a loving God as He may express Himself in our group conscience.


74.
View APPENDIX I, The A.A. Tradition   ... Himself in our group conscience. Our leaders ...  BB Appendix I, The A.A. Tradition, p.562  
Two -- For our group purpose there is but one ultimate authority -- a loving God as He may express Himself in our group conscience. Our leaders are but trusted servants; they do not govern.


75.
View CONTENTS   ... Himself in our group conscience. Our leaders ...  12&12 Contents (Tradition Two), p.9  
Tradition Two -- "For our group purpose there is but one ultimate authority -- a loving God as He may express Himself in our group conscience. Our leaders are but trusted servants; they do not govern."


76.
View TRADITION TWO essay   ... Himself in our group conscience. Our leaders ...  12&12 Tradition Two, p.132  
"For our group purpose there is but one ultimate authority -- a loving God as He may express Himself in our group conscience. Our leaders are but trusted servants; they do not govern."


77.
View STEP TWELVE essay   ... himself in possession of a degree of ...  12&12 Step Twelve, p.107  
He finds himself in possession of a degree of honesty, tolerance, unselfishness, peace of mind, and love of which he had thought himself quite incapable.


78.
View THERE IS A SOLUTION chapter   ... himself in the care of a celebrated ...  BB There Is A Solution, p.26  
Then he had gone to Europe, placing himself in the care of a celebrated physician (the psychiatrist, Dr. Jung) who prescribed for him.


79.
View CONTENTS   ... Himself in the group conscience.  12&12 Contents (Tradition Two), p.10  
Sole authority in A.A. is loving God as He may express Himself in the group conscience.


80.
View TRADITION TWO essay   ... Himself in the group conscience.  12&12 Tradition Two, p.132  
These practical folk then read Tradition Two, and learn that the sole authority in A.A. is a loving God as He may express Himself in the group conscience.


81.
View THERE IS A SOLUTION chapter   ... himself in the light of past associations, ...  BB There Is A Solution, p.28  
This should be an entirely personal affair which each one decides for himself in the light of past associations, or his present choice.


82.
View THERE IS A SOLUTION chapter   ... himself in the most casual way, "It ...  BB There Is A Solution, p.24  
The alcoholic may say to himself in the most casual way, "It won't burn me this time, so here's how!"


83.
View FOREWORD TO FIRST EDITION   ... himself instead as "a member of Alcoholics ...  BB Foreword to First Edition, p.xiii  
When writing or speaking publicly about alcoholism, we urge each of our Fellowship to omit his personal name, designating himself instead as "a member of Alcoholics Anonymous."


84.
View TRADITION TWELVE essay   ... himself just what A.A. was all about.  12&12 Tradition Twelve, p.186  
Consequently, many groups began to hold meetings which were open to interested friends and the public, so that the average citizen could see for himself just what A.A. was all about.


85.
View STEP TWO essay   ... himself lost to the comfort of any ...  12&12 Step Two, p.28  
He thinks himself lost to the comfort of any conviction at all.


86.
View STEP ONE essay   ... himself, "Maybe those A.A.'s were right. ..."  12&12 Step One, p.23  
Following every spree, he would say to himself, "Maybe those A.A.'s were right. ..."


87.
View HOW IT WORKS chapter   ... himself more.  BB How It Works, p.61  
He decides to exert himself more.


88.
View THERE IS A SOLUTION chapter   ... himself no satisfactory explanation for his fall.  BB There Is A Solution, p.26  
More baffling still, he could give himself no satisfactory explanation for his fall.


89.
View THERE IS A SOLUTION chapter   ... himself on the head with a hammer ...  BB There Is A Solution, p.23  
They sound like the philosophy of the man who, having a headache, beats himself on the head with a hammer so that he can't feel the ache.


90.
View STEP FIVE essay   ... himself open to the chance of making ...  12&12 Step Five, p.60  
Surely, then, a novice ought not lay himself open to the chance of making foolish, perhaps tragic, blunders in this fashion.


91.
View THE FAMILY AFTERWARD chapter   ... himself or herself.  BB The Family Afterward, p.122  
The alcoholic, his wife, his children, his "in-laws", each one is likely to have fixed ideas about the family's attitude towards himself or herself.


92.
View TO EMPLOYERS chapter   ... himself or you.  BB To Employers, p.142  
Be satisfied he is not deceiving himself or you.


93.
View STEP TWELVE essay   ... himself quite incapable.  12&12 Step Twelve, p.107  
He finds himself in possession of a degree of honesty, tolerance, unselfishness, peace of mind, and love of which he had thought himself quite incapable.


94.
View STEP TWELVE essay   ... himself ready to receive it.  12&12 Step Twelve, p.107  
What he has received is a free gift, and yet usually, at least in some small part, he has made himself ready to receive it.


95.
View A VISION FOR YOU chapter   ... himself surprisingly well received, and learned that ...  BB A Vision For You, p.156  
He found himself surprisingly well received, and learned that many knew of his drinking.


96.
View STEP SEVEN essay   ... himself, that his humble admission of powerlessness ...  12&12 Step Seven, pp.72-73  
Every newcomer in Alcoholics Anonymous is told, and soon realizes for himself, that his humble admission of powerlessness over alcohol is his first step toward liberation from its paralyzing grip.


97.
View THE FAMILY AFTERWARD chapter   ... himself there.  BB The Family Afterward, p.127  
Since the home has suffered more than anything else, it is well that a man exert himself there.


98.
View WE AGNOSTICS chapter   ... himself this question: "Is it possible that ...  BB We Agnostics, p.56  
But later, alone in his room, he asked himself this question: "Is it possible that all the religious people I have known are wrong?"


99.
View TRADITION FIVE essay   ... himself to his chosen field rather than ...  12&12 Tradition Five, p.150  
Every doctor concerned would at times wish he could devote himself to his chosen field rather than work only with the group.


100.
View WE AGNOSTICS chapter   ... himself to his Maker -- then he knew.  BB We Agnostics, p.57  
He humbly offered himself to his Maker -- then he knew.


101.
View WE AGNOSTICS chapter   ... Himself to us!  BB We Agnostics, p.57  
When we drew near to Him He disclosed Himself to us!


102.
View THERE IS A SOLUTION chapter   ... himself under lock and key or hire ...  BB There Is A Solution, p.26  
In the doctor's judgment he was utterly hopeless; he could never regain his position in society and he would have to place himself under lock and key or hire a bodyguard if he expected to live long.


103.
View MORE ABOUT ALCOHOLISM chapter   ... himself up in an asylum, hoping to ...  BB More About Alcoholism, p.38  
He shuts himself up in an asylum, hoping to mend his ways.


104.
View FOREWORD TO SECOND EDITION   ... himself, we surely have no monopoly.  BB Foreword to Second Edition, p.xxi  
Upon therapy for the alcoholic himself, we surely have no monopoly.


105.
View THERE IS A SOLUTION chapter   ... himself when he had the extraordinary experience, ...  BB There Is A Solution, p.28  
Here was the terrible dilemma in which our friend found himself when he had the extraordinary experience, which as we have already told you, made him a free man.


106.
View WORKING WITH OTHERS chapter   ... himself whether he wants to go on.  BB Working With Others, p.95  
After doing that, he must decide for himself whether he wants to go on.


107.
View TRADITION THREE essay   ... himself whether he was an alcoholic and ...  12&12 Tradition Three, p.141  
Why did we leave it to each newcomer to decide himself whether he was an alcoholic and whether he should join us?


108.
View STEP FIVE essay   ... himself which will place you even more ...  12&12 Step Five, p.62  
Before long, your listener may well tell a story or two about himself which will place you even more at ease.


109.
View CONTENTS   ... himself with and bring recovery to the ...  12&12 Contents (Tradition Five), p.10  
The ability of each A.A. to identify himself with and bring recovery to the newcomer is a gift from God... passing on this gift to others is our one aim.


110.
View TRADITION FIVE essay   ... himself with, and bring recovery to, the ...  12&12 Tradition Five, p.150  
The unique ability of each A.A. to identify himself with, and bring recovery to, the newcomer in no way depends upon his learning, eloquence, or on any special individual skills.


111.
View MORE ABOUT ALCOHOLISM chapter   ... himself with more liquor.  BB More About Alcoholism, p.32  
He was very nervous in the morning after these bouts and quieted himself with more liquor.


112.
View HOW IT WORKS chapter   ... himself, would be pleased.  BB How It Works, p.61  
Everybody, including himself, would be pleased.


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