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By going back in our own drinking histories, we could show that
years before we realized it we were out of control, that our drinking
even then was no mere habit, that it was indeed the beginning of a fatal progression.
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Perhaps your husband will make a fair start on the new basis, but just as things are going beautifully he dismays you by coming home drunk.
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But be sure you are on solid spiritual ground before you start and that your
motive in going is thoroughly good.
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Upon entering A.A., these attitudes were sharply reversed, often going much too far in the opposite direction.
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Once confused and baffled by the seeming futility of existence,
they show the underlying
reasons why they were making heavy going of life.
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Alcohol being no respecter of persons, we are an accurate
cross section of America, and in distant lands, the same democratic evening-up process is now going on.
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With those we dislike we can
begin to practice justice and courtesy, perhaps going out of our way to understand and help them.
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He has been set on a path which
tells him he is really going somewhere, that life is not a dead end, not something to be endured or mastered.
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If we keep on the way we are
going there is little doubt that much good will result, but the surface of the
problem would hardly be scratched.
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Nor does it mean that the members of Alcoholics Anonymous, now restored as citizens of the
world, are going to back away from their individual responsibilities to act
as they see the right upon issues of our time.
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Being still inexperienced and having just made conscious contact with God, it is not probable that we
are going to be inspired at
all times.
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He is going to be more interested in a demonstration of good will than in our talk of spiritual discoveries.
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Are we going to be so rigidly
righteous about making amends that we don't care what happens to the family and home?
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If you and your husband find
a solution for the pressing problem of drink you are, of course, going to be very happy.
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When I returned to the hotel it struck me a highball would be fine before going to bed, so I stepped into the bar and had one.
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Despite all we can say, many who are real alcoholics are not going to
believe they are in that class.
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In fairness we must say that she may understand,
but what are we going to do about a thing like that?
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Here are some of the methods
we have tried: Drinking beer only, limiting the number of drinks, never drinking alone, never drinking in the morning, drinking only at home, never having it in the house, never drinking during business hours, drinking only at parties, switching from scotch to brandy, drinking only natural wines, agreeing to resign if ever drunk on the job, taking a trip, not taking a trip, swearing off forever (with
and without a solemn oath), taking more physical exercise, reading inspirational books,
going to health farms and sanitariums, accepting voluntary commitment to asylums --
we could increase the list
ad infinitum.
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I also had the notion that I
might find a customer for a
car at this place, which was familiar for I had been going
to it for years.
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We're going to need them."
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When a society composed
entirely of alcoholics
says it's going to pay its bills, that's really news.
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But we may employ alcoholics where they are going to perform those services for which we
might otherwise have to engage nonalcoholics.
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But we may employ alcoholics where they are going to perform those services for which we
might otherwise have to engage nonalcoholics.
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At the very beginning, the
couple ought to frankly face the fact that each will have to yield here and there if the family is
going to play an effective part in the new life.
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When evening comes, perhaps just before going to sleep, many of us draw up a balance sheet for the day.
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As we look over the list of business acquaintances and friends we have hurt, we may feel diffident about going to some of them on a spiritual basis.
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Be determined that your husband's drinking is not
going to spoil your relations with your children or your friends.
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Going to the extreme, he can
become a miser, or even a recluse who denies himself both family and friends.
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Or, going to the other extreme, we had wallowed in
emotionalism and had mistaken it for true religious feeling.
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Therefore, ask yourself on each occasion, "Have I any good social, business, or personal reason for going to this place?
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