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From the books  ...  Alcoholics Anonymous (Big Book) and Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions (12 & 12)


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1.
  ... person.  BB Foreword to First Edition, p.xiii
Many do not comprehend that the alcoholic is a very sick person.


2.
  ... person.  BB Into Action, p.72
This is perhaps difficult -- especially discussing our defects with another person.


3.
  ... person.  BB Into Action, p.74
Perhaps our doctor or psychologist will be the person.


4.
  ... person.  BB Into Action, p.74
We say this because we are very anxious that we talk to the right person.


5.
  ... person.  BB Into Action, p.81
We feel we ought to say to her that we have no right to involve another person.


6.
  ... person.  BB Working With Others, p.90
They should be patient, realizing they are dealing with a sick person.


7.
  ... person.  BB To Wives, p.108
He is just another very sick, unreasonable person.


8.
  ... person.  12&12 Step Five, p.56
Psychiatrists and psychologists point out the deep need every human being has for practical insight and knowledge of his own personality flaws and for a discussion of them with an understanding and trustworthy person.


9.
  ... person.  12&12 Step Five, p.60
Somehow, being alone with God doesn't seem as embarrassing as facing up to another person.


10.
  ... person alone, he may soon become convinced ...  BB Working With Others, p.96
If you leave such a person alone, he may soon become convinced that he cannot recover by himself.


11.
  ... person and should be treated accordingly.  BB Working With Others, p.100
But urge upon a man's family that he has been a very sick person and should be treated accordingly.


12.
  ... person; and we were not above selfishness ...  BB To Wives, p.116
We wives found that, like everybody else, we were afflicted with pride, self-pity, vanity and all the things which go to make up the self-centered person; and we were not above selfishness or dishonesty.


13.
  ... person at once?  BB Into Action, p.86
Have we kept something to ourselves which should be discussed with another person at once?


14.
  ... person available.  BB Into Action, p.74
Notwithstanding the great necessity for discussing ourselves with someone, it may be one is so situated that there is no suitable person available.


15.
  ... person, but we are sure we would ...  BB Into Action, p.78
We have already admitted this in confidence to another person, but we are sure we would be imprisoned or lose our job if it were known.


16.
  ... person can experience an entire psychic change ...  BB The Doctor's Opinion, p.xxix
This is repeated over and over, and unless this person can experience an entire psychic change there is very little hope of his recovery.


17.
  ... person can quit upon a nonspiritual basis ...  BB More About Alcoholism, p.34
Whether such a person can quit upon a nonspiritual basis depends upon the extent to which he has already lost the power to choose whether he will drink or not.


18.
  ... person capable of enough willingness and honesty ...  12&12 Step Six, p.63
He goes on to explain that any person capable of enough willingness and honesty to try repeatedly Step Six on all his faults -- without any reservations whatever -- has indeed come a long way spiritually, and is therefore entitled to be called a man who is sincerely trying to grow in the image and likeness of his own Creator.


19.
  ... person concerned, and lay our cards on ...  12&12 Step Nine, p.85
But if no such opportunity presents itself, at some point we will want to summon all our courage, head straight for the person concerned, and lay our cards on the table.


20.
  ... person concerned not being present, we thought ...  12&12 Step Ten, p.94
Or, the person concerned not being present, we thought we were helping others to understand him, when in actuality our true motive was to feel superior by pulling him down.


21.
  ... person continue to turn his will and ...  12&12 Step Three, p.39
So how, exactly, can the willing person continue to turn his will and his life over to the Higher Power?


22.
  ... person could never be the same again.  12&12 Step One, p.23
It was then discovered that when one alcoholic had planted in the mind of another the true nature of his malady, that person could never be the same again.


23.
  ... person could surely not be called a ...  12&12 Tradition Eight, p.168
Then we saw that if a hardworking secretary answered the phone dozens of times a day, listened to twenty wailing wives, arranged hospitalization and got sponsorship for ten newcomers, and was gently diplomatic with the irate drunk who complained about the job she was doing and how she was overpaid, then such a person could surely not be called a professional A.A.


24.
  ... person's expense.  BB Into Action, p.74
We have no right to save our own skin at another person's expense.


25.
  ... person facts about ourselves which no others ...  12&12 Step Five, p.61
Perhaps we shall need to share with this person facts about ourselves which no others ought to know.


26.
  ... person fail who has thoroughly followed our ...  BB How It Works, p.58
Rarely have we seen a person fail who has thoroughly followed our path.


27.
  ... person for a whole day, or maybe ...  12&12 Step Ten, p.91
One unkind tirade or one willful snap judgment can ruin our relation with another person for a whole day, or maybe a whole year.


28.
  ... person for guidance and protection.  12&12 Step Four, p.43
How frequently we see a frightened human being determined to depend completely upon a stronger person for guidance and protection.


29.
  ... person for whom we pray.  12&12 Step Eleven, p.104
Such prayers, of course, are fundamentally good acts, but often they are based upon a supposition that we know God's will for the person for whom we pray.


30.
  ... person has cancer all are sorry for ...  BB There Is A Solution, p.18
If a person has cancer all are sorry for him and no one is angry or hurt.


31.
  ... person, I have profound respect for the ...  BB More About Alcoholism, p.43
Though not a religious person, I have profound respect for the spiritual approach in such cases as yours.


32.
  ... person, I might have followed in their ...  BB To Employers, p.137
And but for the intervention of an understanding person, I might have followed in their footsteps.


33.
  ... person imposes his instincts unreasonably upon others, ...  12&12 Step Four, p.44
Every time a person imposes his instincts unreasonably upon others, unhappiness follows.


34.
  ... person in his line of business.  BB A Vision For You, p.156
He trembled as he went about, for this might mean ruin, particularly to a person in his line of business.


35.
  ... person in whom to confide.  12&12 Contents (Step Five), p.6
How to choose the person in whom to confide.


36.
  ... person in whom we are to confide.  12&12 Step Five, p.60
Our next problem will be to discover the person in whom we are to confide.


37.
  ... person involved entirely.  BB How It Works, p.67
Though a situation had not been entirely our fault, we tried to disregard the other person involved entirely.


38.
  ... person is in danger.  BB To Wives, p.109
We think this person is in danger.


39.
  ... person is like an actor who wants ...  BB How It Works, p.60
Each person is like an actor who wants to run the whole show; is forever trying to arrange the lights, the ballet, the scenery and the rest of the players in his own way.


40.
  ... person is, of course, very ancient.  12&12 Step Five, p.56
This practice of admitting one's defects to another person is, of course, very ancient.


41.
  ... person is that we can get his ...  12&12 Step Five, p.60
The benefit of talking to another person is that we can get his direct comment and counsel on our situation, and there can be no doubt in our minds what that advice is.


42.
  ... person, it confirms that we have been ...  12&12 Step Five, p.60
When we are honest with another person, it confirms that we have been honest with ourselves and with God.


43.
  ... person, it frequently takes great resolution to ...  12&12 Step Five, p.61
Even when you've found the person, it frequently takes great resolution to approach him or her.


44.
  ... person likes to think he is bodily ...  BB More About Alcoholism, p.30
No person likes to think he is bodily and mentally different from his fellows.


45.
  ... person may turn out to be one's ...  12&12 Step Five, p.61
This person may turn out to be one's sponsor, but not necessarily so.


46.
  ... person most interested in him -- usually his ...  BB Working With Others, p.90
If there is any indication that he wants to stop, have a good talk with the person most interested in him -- usually his wife.


47.
  ... person offended we said to ourselves, "This ...  BB How It Works, p.67
When a person offended we said to ourselves, "This is a sick man.


48.
  ... person or argue.  BB Into Action, p.77
Under no condition do we criticize such a person or argue.


49.
  ... person or persons with whom to take ...  BB Into Action, p.74
Rightly and naturally, we think well before we choose the person or persons with whom to take this intimate and confidential step.


50.
  ... person, our emotions go on the defensive.  12&12 Step Eight, p.78
The moment we ponder a twisted or broken relationship with another person, our emotions go on the defensive.


51.
  ... person, place, thing or situation as being ...  BB Acceptance, p.417
When I am disturbed, it is because I find some person, place, thing or situation -- some fact of my life -- unacceptable to me, and I can find no serenity until I accept that person, place, thing or situation as being exactly the way it is supposed to be at this moment.


52.
  ... person, place, thing or situation -- some fact ...  BB Acceptance, p.417
When I am disturbed, it is because I find some person, place, thing or situation -- some fact of my life -- unacceptable to me, and I can find no serenity until I accept that person, place, thing or situation as being exactly the way it is supposed to be at this moment.


53.
  ... person places sex desire ahead of everything ...  12&12 Step Four, p.43
Suppose a person places sex desire ahead of everything else.


54.
  ... person quick to see and understand our ...  BB Into Action, p.74
We often find such a person quick to see and understand our problem.


55.
  ... person should head the job?  12&12 Tradition Six, p.157
But what kind of person should head the job?


56.
  ... person sobered up, and after doing all ...  12&12 Step Twelve, p.111
For example, we may set our hearts on getting a particular person sobered up, and after doing all we can for months, we see him relapse.


57.
  ... person, such as our wife, best friend, ...  BB How It Works, p.63
We found it very desirable to take this spiritual step with an understanding person, such as our wife, best friend, or spiritual adviser.


58.
  ... person unless we are sure he would ...  BB The Family Afterward, p.125
Another principle we observe carefully is that we do not relate intimate experiences of another person unless we are sure he would approve.


59.
  ... person upon whom she can vent jealousy.  BB Into Action, p.82
It is better, however, that one does not needlessly name a person upon whom she can vent jealousy.


60.
  ... person wants, for example, to eat, to ...  12&12 Step Six, p.64
Every normal person wants, for example, to eat, to reproduce, to be somebody in the society of his fellows.


61.
  ... person we dislike, we take the bit ...  BB Into Action, p.77
Nevertheless, with a person we dislike, we take the bit in our teeth.


62.
  ... person when we see good reasons why ...  BB Into Action, p.72
We will be more reconciled to discussing ourselves with another person when we see good reasons why we should do so.


63.
  ... person who has had experience with an ...  BB Working With Others, p.101
To a person who has had experience with an alcoholic, this may seem like tempting Providence, but it isn't.


64.
  ... person who has recovered.  BB Working With Others, p.90
If he says yes, then his attention should be drawn to you as a person who has recovered.


65.
  ... person who lives with a woman alcoholic ...  BB To Wives (Note), p.104
(*) Written in 1939, when there were few women in A.A., this chapter assumes that the alcoholic in the home is likely to be the husband. But many of the suggestions given here may be adapted to help the person who lives with a woman alcoholic -- whether she is still drinking or is recovering in A.A. A further source of help is noted on page 121.


66.
  ... person who seemed doomed, who had so ...  BB The Doctor's Opinion, p.xxix
On the other hand -- and strange as this may seem to those who do not understand -- once a psychic change has occurred, the very same person who seemed doomed, who had so many problems he despaired of ever solving them, suddenly finds himself easily able to control his desire for alcohol, the only effort necessary being that required to follow a few simple rules.


67.
  ... person who wants to eat in a ...  BB Working With Others, p.102
If you are with a person who wants to eat in a bar, by all means go along.


68.
  ... person whose support can be obtained.  12&12 Tradition Eleven, p.181
A worthy charity wants to raise money; forthwith, its letterhead shows the name of every distinguished person whose support can be obtained.


69.
  ... person with God on his side.  BB The Family Afterward, p.129
Dad may feel that for years his drinking has placed him on the wrong side of every argument, but that now he has become a superior person with God on his side.


70.
  ... person, with this qualification -- being perhaps fatally ...  BB To Employers, p.142
Say that you believe he is a gravely ill person, with this qualification -- being perhaps fatally ill, does he want to get well?


71.
  ... person, you had better use everyday language ...  BB Working With Others, p.93
When dealing with such a person, you had better use everyday language to describe spiritual principles.


72.
  ... person, you will have created a new ...  BB To Wives, p.115
When you have carefully explained to such people that he is a sick person, you will have created a new atmosphere.


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