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What could we have done better?
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If you are sure your man does not
want to stop, he may as well be discharged, the sooner the better.
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So, for one reason or another, they cover these men, hoping matters will take a turn for the better.
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Each of us has had his own near-fatal encounter with the juggernaut of self-will, and has suffered enough under its weight to be willing to look for something better.
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The persistent use of meditation and prayer, we
found, did open the channel so that where there had been a trickle, there now was a river which led to sure power and safe guidance from God as we were increasingly
better able to understand Him.
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For these minutes and sometimes hours spent in self-examination are bound to make all the other hours of our day better and happier.
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He shouts that if his partner would treat him better, and his wife would leave him alone, he'd soon solve his alcohol problem.
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Here we need only recognize that we did act or think badly, try to visualize how we might
have done better, and resolve with God's help to carry these lessons over into tomorrow, making, of course, any amends still neglected.
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You think he ought to know the subject better, as everyone should have a
clear understanding of
the risk he takes if he drinks too much.
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Almost any experienced A.A. will tell how his affairs have taken remarkable and unexpected turns for the
better as he tried to improve his conscious contact with God.
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It may be he has done us more harm than we have done him and, though we may have acquired a
better attitude toward him, we are still not too
keen about admitting our faults.
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If their old relationship
is to be resumed it must be
on a better basis, since the former did not work.
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The consideration of long-standing difficulties had better be
postponed, when possible, to times deliberately set aside for that purpose.
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In Step Eleven we saw that if a Higher Power had restored us to sanity and had enabled us to
live with some peace of mind in a sorely troubled world, then such a Higher Power was worth knowing better, by as direct contact as possible.
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There is something spiritual about A.A. too, and Catholic participation
in it almost invariably
results in poor Catholics becoming better Catholics."
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With a proper display of honesty and morality, we'd
stand a better chance of getting what we really wanted.
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More often than not, it is imperative that a man's brain be cleared before he is approached, as
he has then a better chance of
understanding and accepting what we have to offer.
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Should they accept and practice spiritual principles, there is a much
better chance that the head of the family will recover.
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There was actually a time
when the press of America thought the anonymity of A.A. was better for us than some of
our own members did.
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He may tell mother, who has
been religious all her life, that she doesn't know what
it's all about, and that she had better get his brand of spirituality while there
is yet time.
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But you had better hang on to
it.
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Now and then a serious drinker, being dry at the moment says, "I don't miss it at all. Feel better. Work better. Having a better time."
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Your man will fare better if placed in such physical condition that he
can think straight and no longer craves liquor.
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Although these attitudes are common enough, we A.A.'s find we need something much better in order to keep our balance.
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As soon as we begin to feel confident in our new way of life and have begun, by our behavior and example, to convince those about us that
we are indeed changing for
the better, it is usually safe to talk in complete frankness with those who have been seriously
affected, even those who may be only a little
or not at all aware of what we have done to them.
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We forgot that most alcoholics in A.A. have an earning power considerably above average; we forgot the immense goodwill of our brother A.A.'s who were only too
eager to help us to better jobs when we deserved them; we forgot the
actual or potential financial insecurity of
every human being in the world.
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And how often we work hard with no better motive than to be secure and slothful later on -- only we call that "retiring."
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As the whisky rose to my head I told myself I would manage better next time, but I might as well get good and drunk then.
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If a mere code of morals or a better philosophy of life were sufficient to overcome alcoholism, many of us would
have recovered long ago.
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An alcoholic who has recovered, but holds a relatively unimportant
job, can talk to a man with a better position.
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Nothing will help the man who is off on a spiritual tangent so much as the wife who adopts a sane spiritual program, making a better practical use of it.
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Some day we hope that Alcoholics Anonymous will help the public to a better realization of the gravity of the alcoholic problem, but we shall be of little use if our attitude is one of bitterness or hostility.
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If an A.A. member acting as a citizen can become a better researcher, educator, personnel officer, then why not?
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When I got the fog out of my brain, I decided that quitting school was very foolish and that I had better return and continue my work.
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When we look back, we realize that the things which
came to us when we put ourselves in God's hands were better than anything we could have planned.
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I seemed to be able to snap back the next morning better than most of my fellow drinkers, who were cursed (or
perhaps blessed) with a great deal of morning-after nausea.
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Then he had, in effect, been raised from the dead, suddenly taken from the scrap heap to a level of life better than the best he had ever known!
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Though it is infinitely
better that he have no relapse at all, as has been true
with many of our men, it is by no means a bad
thing in some cases.
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These will appear as big setbacks at the time, but will be seen later as stepping-stones to better things.
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An honest regret for harms done, a genuine gratitude for blessings received, and a
willingness to try for
better things tomorrow will be the permanent assets we shall seek.
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If we are sorry for what we have done, and have the honest desire to let God take us to better things, we believe we will be forgiven and will have learned our lesson.
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Now and then a serious drinker, being dry at the moment says, "I don't miss it at all. Feel better. Work better. Having a better time."
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At these critical moments, if we remind ourselves that "it is better
to comfort than to be comforted, to understand
than to be understood, to love than to be loved," we will be following the intent of Step Eleven.
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He thought it better to give comfort than to receive it; better to understand than to be understood; better to forgive than to be forgiven.
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He thought it better to give comfort than to receive it; better to understand than to be understood; better to forgive than to be forgiven.
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Obviously, A.A. had to be publicized somehow, so we
resorted to the idea that it
would be far better to let our friends do this for us.
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The family may object to
this, but unless he is in a dangerous physical condition, it is better to risk it.
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After consulting with his
wife and partner he came to the conclusion that
it was better to take those risks than to stand before his Creator guilty of such ruinous slander.
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He thought it better to give comfort than to receive it; better to understand than to be understood; better to forgive than to be forgiven.
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We think the business fabric is shot through with a situation
which might be helped by better understanding all around.
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When dealing with such a person, you had better use everyday language to describe spiritual principles.
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We'd form groups of depressive and paranoid
folks; the deeper the neurosis, the better we'd like it.
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Now and then a serious drinker, being dry at the moment says, "I don't miss it at all. Feel better. Work better. Having a better time."
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